Do invite her to the wedding?

That's so tough. Don't NOT invite her just because you weren't invited to her wedding. I think if you'd been married during the time you weren't talking, you wouldn't have invited either. If you aren't getting married for 2 years, things may change between you - either you'll get closer or you'll grow further apart.

I think you should decide based on your guest list numbers. If you find you have to cut other people in order to allow her, then don't invite her since you don't seem to be close any more. But if there's lots of space, and you want her there, invite her.

(I know, not much of an answer! Sorry - that's a hard situation!)

Yes because she is still your friend, and you have been friends for a long time, and you want to keep it up because it's fun to have friends. Friends are there for you when you need a hug or someone to talk to. Besides treat others the way you want to be treated. Just because she didn't invite you doesn't mean you shouldn't invite her, it would also be rude if you didn't. She might also feel sad because you didn't invite her to your wedding (when the wedding is over), and that might make her not want to be friends, so i say go out with her on Sat. (or a day you and her are available) do something you both like to do, then go to lunch and talk about the wedding and maybe invite her, and be the bigger and better person.

You say that you reconciled but if you don't know whether to invite her to your wedding, it is obvious that you don't know what "reconciliation" or "forgive and forget" mean. She got married during your estrangement from her. Big whoop. So are you sulking over a missed party? If you are truly happy to be back with an old friend, then you should be inviting her to your wedding. Invitations are not "pay back", they are sincere requests that people attend to celebrate your joy. Sorry but you sound VERY petty and immature. Besides, you don't even have a date and two years is a long time. In 18 months when you are starting to make a guest list, you will know if you're friends or not.

It depends, what role do you want her to play in your life in the future. If you want to recapture your lost friendship over time then send her an invitation. Getting back at her for not sending you an invite to her wedding won't help you two get closer.

If you just want to keep her as a casual friend or a drinking buddy then don't send her one. If the topic comes up either tell her that the wedding is going to be a small event...or tell her that is it very expensive per head and you had to keep your count down.

Only if you want to. You don't have to. If you are not close, then I really do not see the reason. I had a lot of co workers and people that I occasionally talk to that I am not inviting. No biggie, if you are not close, then no, sorry. Think about this....would you invite this person to Superbowl Sunday at your house...your bbq next weekend...your hubbys b day party. If the answer is no....then no.

If you are talking again then there is no use holding a grudge for not being invited to her wedding. You can always be a better person and just invite her anyway. Whether or not she shows is up to her. Plus it could be a good building step to get your friendship back to where it was previously.

Well, it all depends on how close you feel you are to her. Would you be upset or disappointed if she wasn't at your wedding?

You also need to think if you still want to be friends with her. If you don't invite her to your wedding while you guys are now speaking it will put a major strain, and probably end, the friendship.

I wouldn't. Or, I would only invite her if you knew that she wouldn't come. I have a similar was-good-friend-now-is-not-friend from high school I went to her wedding, which was somewhat expensive for me and I gave her a very nice wedding gift (a 1/2 day helicopter ride around a tropical island during her honeymoon). I invited her to my wedding and she did not even send my RSVP back to tell me that she was not coming (and she didn't bother to send a gift either). We did email once or twice when I was planning the wedding and she knew that she would be invited. I'm glad that I invited her and I am more glad that she did not come.

You have time to wait and see where your friendship goes - figure this out about two months before the wedding when you will be sending out invitations.

Of course you can invite her. Wait and see how close you are at the time you are actually planning the wedding.