divorce or legal seperation?

First, my feelings go out to you, having split up from a husband of 26 yrs. You need to reconnect. Don't glue to the tv. Take a cup of coffee/tea and sit outside and just maybe not talk, but, be together. While the wedding is a thorn, life will go on even if your wife/you or whomever won't be there.

It is very late in the game to split up. There's the subject of spousal support, who gets what, and how to divide all the things accumulated in 47 yrs. You must be in your late 60's or early 70's. If you think someone else is going to pick up the pieces and give you either more sex, a more exciting time, or whoop it up,think again. Think of the woman who had your children. Who made ends meet when there wasn't enough money, when you got sick, she helped you. All those years . She is as lonely as you, I will guess. And, her hearing is off. That may be fear or pride talking to her, or just obstinate. Take her and see a Dr. Could be wax buildup. No. Don't throw in the towel. I miss my husband. I am sorry we couldn't fix things...we were both too sure we were right and very stupid. Wouldn't make the first move and say I'm sorry and try to fix it. Don't make the same mistake. Good luck. Didn't mean to write a sermon.

And wherein lies your guilt in this situation. It isn't uncommon for married couples to watch TV in separate rooms because of different choices in programs. When was the last time you sent her flowers, took her to dinner or even opened a door for her. She may be a pain but I have a feeling you're so busy being right that you can't see your own faults. I am not sure from reading this if the doctor told her she had a hearing impairment or if you did or both of you told her or perhaps you're the doctor who told her she could not hear. Maybe she isn't aware that if she gets hearing aids that she can turn the volume down when she's heard enough of your spiel. Your daughter's wedding is another story. Your wife shouldn't skip it but your daughter is putting her sister in an awkward situation by not inviting the husband, not to mention airing the family dirty laundry in public. You should as the patriarch of the family should not be in on the stoning of a family member. You should be promoting good will among your children. My point, I believe there is as much dirt on your hands as is on your wife's.

You're in your, what, 70's? Do you really want to separate now? You've been together for 47 years, through thick and thin. This is another thin period, that's all.

Besides, you've got the kids and grandkids to think about. Separation means they'll have to choice who is right and who's wrong. You're going to end up being wrong in this situation. They're going to choose sides, which will just be more divisive for the family.

Find outside interests, more friends to be with.

I agree with your wife. If my daughter proposed to me that she wasn't inviting her brother-in-law I'd tell her to suck it up, out of respect for her sister and nephews/nieces he should be invited. You daughter married to the "layabout" has enough to deal with without being kicked in the teeth by her family. Just think about how she'll feel.

turn off your tv and watch tv with her.......stop the drama regarding the daughter, your daughter is wrong excluding her brother-in-law, that's ridiculous, your daughter is married to him, that is her choice not any of yours......

someone has to be the bigger person so my suggestion is some time away together might rekindle something