why do we care when we shouldn't?

because you have a heart

First off: Substitute the word "I" for the word "we" in your question. This is YOUR problem, not everyone elses. If you try to pawn it off as a human condition, you'll never solve it and move on.

Secondly: He is your ex for a reason. Some of us retain only the good memories of the past and that is what you are doing for him. There is a reason you broke up. Find that reason and remind yourself of it every time you think you want him back.

Example: A girlfriend left me once because I didn't make enough money at the time. Now I make plenty of money and I won't go back to her because she's obviously too focused on what I can buy her instead of being focused on me.

There is always a flaw. Find it and shine it like a spotlight in your face when you have a weak moment.

We cant choose who we care for and who we do not. You spent 2 years with someone so your bound to have some feelings for him still. Your just dealing with a bit of jealousy and in time those feelings should fade a little. Just because your feeling this way, remind yourself of how you felt towards the end of the relationship. Getting back together might not be in your best interest, however theres a slight chance the relationship can be rekindled. Just give it sometime before you decide you want him back for sure.

The reason why you care is because, you don't want someone else to take your place. And you probably do miss him. Girl! It's not a bad thing at all, I feel the same way. But, I learned that you can never make a guy change your mind, even with sex. But here's something I always think to myself, "She's nothing but a ho, an ordinary low". Or "He calls her his girlfriend, but I call her a skank!" =] Makes me feel better about myself haha!

Go 2 a male strip club then, then u'll 4get all about this dude and the hot dancing guy lol

but seriusly i thnk u jst need 2 move on i no its hard bt ben and jerry's and a comedy film help x

best of luk

That is a hard one to explain. A lot of it has to do with being territorial. You have to remember what he did to make you break up with him in the first place and decide whether or not you want to go through that again. Hopefully you will make the right decision and move on with your life and let him move on with his.

stop thinking about him, enjoy whoever your with now....why would you want your ex when you guys probably dont even communicate ? if you brokw up with him it should had been for a reason....this is the way i see it, if you throw something to the trash why are you going to pick it back up? Whatever is left behind let it stay behind, live your life now, your future, and leave the past behind...don't pick up trash....it shouldnt be hard for you since you have someone else in your life...just dont let it bother you...think your too good for him....

its just a natural thing that us girls do, because i've done it before too. because we want him to realize what he had and for him to come begging for us back, we wait for a long period of time, but also at the same time we meet other people and we date them, but when they meet someone we get mad and want them back, its just a phase that we go through,you will eventually get over him and move on.

You cannot miss what you never had!

With an ex ,so much was shared:feelings,space,things,joys, pains,food,moments,secrets,confidentials,hopes,dreams,

sorrow,promises,a fantasy of the future together,etc.

That's why we long for what/who has come and gone, especially in the context of an ex.

Keep thinking of all the reasons you broke up with him. Find another boyfriend.

the strings which attached you even in your mind talker a while to break move on by doing other things and dating others.