How different...is too different??

Sometimes being opposites are best.

The differences will only matter if you two allow them two. Couples with more differences than you do well together all the time...couples with fewer differences than you two sometimes don't last long at all.

You choose what to allow to bother you or be an issue, and what not to.

If you two are financially okay then him working one day job shouldn't be an issue. However if it requires you to work 2 jobs to pay the bills, then if you two were living together, I'd say he'd need to pick up the slack somewhere (esp since you are also still in school). Hopefully when you finish school, you also will be able to work just 1 job and make the salary you need to cover your expenses.

Outgoing people and introverts can do okay as long as they respect each other and realize that the outgoing person isn't always going to be keen staying home, and the introvert won't always want to go out and be social. The balance is you hang with each other sometimes and get out of your comfort zones, and other times you go your separate ways without each other...

The kids issue needs to be settled before deciding to be together long term. If you feel it's something you must do then he needs to be on board with you, not "maybe" or "no" or you'll resent it later and he shouldn't be coerced into procreating if that's not really his desire. That's the biggest issue I see here that needs to be settled if you're going to be a couple down the road.

Otherwise, keep diggin' each other and enjoy!

For me, the people who say 'opposite's attract' are only thinking in the short term. When you're in the 'getting to know someone' stage, the differences are what makes it exciting, because you get to learn about what they believe in, and they you... Except, after a while, when you've realised you're not into the same things they are, it gets far harder...

It turns out to be harder and harder to pursuade your partner to experience the things you want to experience, and vice versa, if you're completely disinterested in the things they love.

I've been through it.. and it has led to difficulties and arguments for me. Especially if your partner is particularly narrow minded to trying new things!!

I find that being with my current boyfriend, who is the most similar person to me i've ever met, is far better than any other relationship i've ever had.. we can both enjoy the same things together because we both like them, and we can discuss things we both find interesting for hours...

If your relationship is getting to the point of lacking 'the spark' and is getting tiring and more of an effort, then it probably isn't going to work... Sorry to be a bit brutal about it, but for me, differences don't work as well as similarities, so i figure similarities are better...

Instead of focusing on your difference, why not talk about things you have in common? Movies, music, friends, work ethic, color, style, sports, anything. If you're both happy, it shouldn't matter how much you have in common or how much you have different. My boyfriend likes drinking as well, and I couldn't care less if all the alcohol on the planet suddenly vanished. The problem is if it is too much for you to deal with.

The only potential issue I could see would be the children issue. That's something that needs to be sorted out before you get too involved.

Hi fellow Geminian - long time no see!

The ever pratcical (evil?) twin side of me says: CAUTION - I see red lights aflickering!!! Perhaps the diff are simply one too many . . . and the boozing thing is somewhat worrisome!The (less-evil) other side says: You've got to work at it to make it work, and learn to forgive the simple trespasses. Yet, is a lack of ambition (a decided NON-Geminian trait) and the loss of control (through over-indulgance of alcohol) really just "simple trespasses"? If you gut says: "Worry: Things might not be a rosy as you think" trust your gut feeling (seldom wrong!!!) There's a vast difference between liking and trusting enough to make a lasting relationship!!

Good luck

XXXXX

PS: >>> Supernova - clearly U don't understand Geminians! Work twice as hard, and play equally as hard, but clearly knows the diffs!!! U're missing the point chum!!

* A STAR for Becky pse!!!

Have to say Gemini, at least this guy is working. Life isnt all work and no play. You sound too serious, chill out and have fun, you are too young to start flustering about 60 hour weeks and further education and laying off the drink so he has to do it alone! He needs his fun, why not ask him to take you ten pin bowling instead of him playing darts with pals?

Then have a meal together and few glasses of wine, drink with him. You WILL lose him unless you stop playing his mother.

As for kids there is plenty of time for them, have some fun first or at least get the fun/ work balance right (at the moment you have not)

Yeah the excitment always goes a way after a while.....and that is when you really find out if the other person is right for you

only you know if you are too different to be compatible in the long run

yeah you both are different but in a good way! but hang on to this 1 if you really like this guy.......right?

good luck

sounds to me like you answer your own question girl...dump that clown, he sounds immature. anyway yea you shouldnt be working more than him like that, if anything he should feel bad that you do work so much, and he should want to do something about it...