Is it wrong to think differently of a woman I fell in love with then told me she'd had sex with 13 men?

This is the number one reason I strongly believe that you should not discuss the "count" on sex. If any information about sex with others needs to be disclosed, is the fact if there is a disease that needs to be discussed or it's allowable to talk a little bit about the one true love. Other than that, stop asking and counting.

It depends on how old she is. You can't expect a woman who's, say, 30 and who has been single a long time to be unexperienced. I think the policy on finding out your lover's past should be "don't ask, don't tell." It just makes people feel jealous, so I don't ask my boyfriends, and if they ask, I just say "a few" and try not to be specific. Now that you know how many men she's been with, maybe you should ask her why... Some women have had a lot of partners out of loneliness and the need for affection that they haven't been able to get in other ways. A lot of women were alslo molested as children, and for some reason they grow up thinking that sex is how they relate to men or that it's what's expected of them. They don't know how to respect themselves and say no because no man has ever shown them respect and they feel they don't deserve it. So ask her.

how old is she because that can make a difference. if she is 18 then she is low down if she is 35 that makes sense. it is wrong if she doesn't breathe in between partners but that sounds very invasive almost like it was not your business because you can't handle the response she gave. if it makes u feel any better a guy told me anytime u get a body count from a woman you should multiply it by 2.

In how many years?

What are the patterns?

Don't expect to be any diffrent than the others. Make sure you are both looking for the same thing in a relationship. Communicate. Go slow, do not rush sex unless you are okay just being number 14.

Look at it this way. she had 13 men prior to you she made 13 mistakes . How many mistakes did you make only two?

Truely if you resent this idea just leave her because it is something that will not leave your mind...

My husband mentioned to me that he had a problem with my prior experience after 9 years of marrage..

I let him go so he could go and even up the score...

Sorry for being so honest.

If you guys are focusing on being in a relationship, you shouldnt mention how many people youve slept with in the past UNLESS it's because you asked and wanted to know or if you are curious and just being cautious about catching an STD.

!probably she's honest and dosnt want to keep any secrets with you! it's wrong to think differently of a woman who told you that. if she didnt tell you that, means you would respect her? it all depends, why she went sleeping with 13 men! wheather she just enjoyed moving from one men to another, and if so, then she wont be with you for long! or she didnt get along with these men, so kept moving, but according to your explanation, it sounds like it was just fun for her to have s*x with 13 men, that means you could be the 14th! it maybe very hard to accept that you fell in love with this person, it's obvious that you may think of her differently!!!

If you can't respect her because she had sex with thirteen men,

if you think your love is not that strong to accept her past.

Then maybe you should let her go.

It's your life. I think she could have had problems then,

and she's not into it now.

I'm not trying to justify her actions. What I'm trying to point out is:

Does your love and devotion for her changed because of what she

told you?

If it did, no one has the right to judge your change of heart

as much as no one has the right to judge her based on her past.

Just my point of view, I might be wrong. =)

Only 13 times? H e l l go for it. Now if she is under 18 I'd think twice tho!

No its not wrong, but in order for you to get over it u gotta go bone 13 women(just kidding). Its natural for that to happen, but u gotta think it could be 30 or 50! So i guess just be thankful for that....