Is it worth staying in a marriage without love?

Lets be honest life is to short to be unhappy. If you don't love your spouse you need to tell her. Kids as they get older will pick up on your unhappiness, your not doing them any favors by staying. As long as your a committed parent where you live is no big deal. Money is an awful reason to stay with some one. There is a saying "Money can't make you happy." Money can ease a financial situation but it can't keep you warm at night. If you choose to stay you could be missing out on the one your ment to be with. Everyone deserves to find love. Good Luck

Think of why you don't "love" your spouse anymore. What makes you think you never loved that person? Apparently you cared for them because you stayed with them long enough to get married but ask yourself if you are IN love with them. If not then why? Make a list of the things you feel like are missing from your relationship. Is it compassion and comfort? Then those can be worked on. Maybe you are going through what I call a "dry spell" in a relationship and don't worry, almost everyone does this. People that are together for so long sometimes get to a point where they think they don't need the other person or they don't love the other person. I've done this before and I'm not afraid to admit it because other people have too! Times like these make you appreciate your spouse. What you can do is take a day off for just "you time." Go do the things you like to do. (Remain faithful of course.. I just mean go out and enjoy your hobbies.) While your gone, try to ask yourself questions like "Am I missing my spouse right now?", "Would I enjoy this better if they were here with me?" It sounds silly but try it. It might work.. =)

If you mean loveless in the sense that there is not burning passion, then I say stay for the kids sake. If you mean loveless in the sense that neither of you care about the other's feelings or dreams for the future, then no. All romantic notions of marriage aside, statistically speaking, kids do better when they live with both their biological father and mother. If the kids are grown (and you believe that it is over), I say push the issue with her. You might find that she is just as unhappy and willing to try things reconcile the marriage, or to split ways. Then you can both go out and find younger, more exotic and exciting lovers. Good Luck. :)

No! No! No!

I saw your other question as well.

You will be able to do this in the short term, but not over the long haul. What you are feeling will only get worse.

You need to think of yourself.

You also need to get a plan going. Decide on how long you can live this way. Start planning now for when you are ready to go. Money is not everything, but you also don't want to be living in poverty. If you don't work, maybe do something part time, or even do volunteer work. Anything to help with a resume.

Take care!

Been there... still doing that... but not for too much longer.

I dont think it does anyone good staying in a loveless marriage...especially the kids. You can still have a warm, loving relationship with the kids without the unhappiness of the marital relationship.

You bring up a very good question. I was in a loveless marriage for 11 years and it was not fun. It was not miserable, just no fulfillment. He went and did what he wanted without me and I did the same to him. I finally called a halt to it, got a divorce and am now married to the most wonderful man in the world. It is just not going to get better and ask yourself this question. Is it fair to her? Is it fair to you? When both answers are the same, then act on that.

You should never have to stay in a loveless marriage and have a unhappy life. It's not fair to yourself or your husband and kids. You can only live the lie for so long.

Are you happy in a loveless marriage - for the kids, the money, etc.??? If you can do it and that is what you want then stay. If you want more from yourself then take the next step...

No... I'm just starting the divorce process after 12 years. Don't get me wrong, I will always love him in some way, he is my kid's dad, that means something to me, but I'm not in love with him and haven't been for a long time. Honestly, I have found someone that I truly love with all of my heart and the feelings I have for him aren't like feelings I've ever felt for anyone before, makes me wonder if I ever really was "in love" with my husband. If you don't love this person it will show, you will fight, your kids will be the ones to suffer in the end. I stayed for the last 6 years, unhappy, for the kids. Now that he is out of our house we are happier then we have been in a very long time. There are a lot of things to think about, to look at, but in the end you have to follow your heart, if your heart isn't in it then you shouldn't be either.

Why did you marry them in the first place then? No, a loveless marriage only hurts both parties further down the road.