Does this mean my older brother doesnt love me anymore?

Your brother still loves u little girl... I can call u dat cos i am in college myself... He got a good offer, why does ur mum want him to come bak when he can make a good name for himself? Doesnt she want to see her son happy? Is she worried abt herself only...

And abt u being blamed for ur father leaving, I think it was because situations were such that ur father could not have taken the pressure he was under, when he was with his wife. They wud have had their own issues as a couple, which is normal. You being blamed is just that ur mom is passing the blame on to u or ur brother, because someone is to be blamed and since she cant take it on herself, because u may start disliking her, thats why its convenient to blame it on u and make sure that u feel bad, and that her guilty conscience is what u battle... she may be hiding smthing she did in the relationship because of which ur dad took off.... I am sure ur bro is a great guy, and the world is tough for us all... As a guy, he will have his own family, kids and commitments, he cannot be stuck to his mother all his life and do whatever she asks... He has an individual identity and so do u... so in that case u shudnt be worried, because ur brother loves u a lot.. I am sure, but then his commitments have held him bak... And he says he will visit u over weekends and come for ur track events etc.... believe him... u keep in touch with him, if ur mum doesnt... tell him that u love him... He does care enough to tell u that much that he will b there for u... ur mum needs to appreciate ur closeness and ur relationship with him....

I think ur mum just generally has issues with men... I know I sound real harsh... But then ur dad first then ur bro.. she isnt getting what she wants, thats why she is behaving this way... And now that her last hope was ur brother, she has started to say things abt him as well... It isnt ur fault, and never think ur bro dont love u... ur still his kid sister... dont worry....I am sure, he loves u like anything... just that guys dont express generally cos they are meant to be tough and all that... so u dont need ta worry lassie... Times change, with situations changing.... Just dont worry abt what ur mum says... if ur satisfied that ur brother loves u alot, u dont need to be justifying ur relationship with him to anyone who is not bothered abt u both, or anyone who has a grudge against u.... Ur mum just needs to know that her perception in life isnt too good and she needs to work on improving herself before she points out at others' faults... U dont need to worry at all... U just b a good gal to ur mum n bro... dont take sides... remain neutral, m sure things will b fine.. an if ur mum blames u for ur dad going, just know that wherever ur dad is, and wherever ur bro is.. they love u and are there for u... if anything at all, u can trust on God to be there for u always.. I am sure ur his favourite kiddo and he wont let anything bad happen with u.... otherwise keep me posted on Y! Answers abt ur situation, I will b there to offer u a lil piece of my mind!

NOT AT ALL, your brother is just accepting a job thats why people go to school to get an education and then get a good job, this has nothing to do with his love for you, by the sounds of it your brother loves you alot, your mother on then other hand sounds like an abusive terrible person, she is verbally abusing you saying things like that and trying to make you feel bad about your father leaving, a parents love is unconditional there is nothing you could have done to make him leave clearly your mother was to blame and is unhappy that he left he but by the way she is talking to you and putting you down i can see why he wanted to get away from her, you should try talking to someone about the way your mother is treating you a counceler or something and then maybe have your mother come and talk to her with you, the way she is treating you is terrible, its not your fault at all, i know this and i dont even know you, it sounds like you really love your bro and i bet hes cares just as much about you, you should talk to him about what she is saying to you.. good luck

Personally, I grew up without my mom, father, and brother in my life, and My father didn't want me... But yea u'r mom needs help to tell her daughter that is cruel... There's either issues u'r brother has with your mother, or something.. But most likely it's u'r brother is a grown man now and is trying to set his future on track, no one can blame him... I don't think he intentionally lied to you. You didn't do anything! I think once you get older you will understand and see what your brother is doing is not u'r fault or a bad thing... Doesn't mean he doesn't love you or your mother... But like i said before i think your mom has issues and probley is angry with u'r father and takes it out on you and your brother... Try not to worry Sweetie, he's your big brother, he'll be there no matter what... Next time he calls ask him everything u've asked here! He loves you and it's not either one of your faults that your lives have put you where u are... Take care and Please don't let your mom, make you feel that way!!!!

Your brother is an adult and is making a life for himself. That doesn't mean he hates you or your mother. Did you expect that he would live with you and your mom forever? Aren't you going to move out at some point as well when you are older and ready to start your own life? That is just how life goes, things change, people move. He's your brother and he will always love his little sister. Don't listen to your mother, she was hurt by your father and is taking it out on your brother. I'm sure your bro is a great guy.

No. You mom is still upset about your dad leaving her.

And she blames you.

Maybe she did it. and she don't want to take the blame alone. She puts the blame on your brother as well.

Shes blaming everyone but herself.

She feel deserted, as well.

She feels no one cares anymore, because she gave on on it. And so she turns to you ,just to make you feel bad.

You did no wrong.

Something happened between your mom and dad. after or brfore you was born.

Your mom is being selfish, and selfcentered.

Ask her why she balmes you.

And tell her how much it hurts. and you lover her.

You may also let your brother know.

Maybe he can feel in the blanks.

If need be. ask him if you can live with him.

Hey, your brother loves you a lot. Trust me a sibling bond is very strong. Does your mom have any sibs? Cause if she doesn't that means she doesn't know the kind of bond siblings have. Your mom also has some men issues, and she needs to sort her problems out, and not blame things on you and your brother.

No Way and your mom shouldn't blame you. It isn't her fault. She probably is blaiming you but it may really be her fault. Parents can sometimes be over-protective and sometimes over-controlling.

Your mom probably is angry at your dad for leaving so she thinks all guys are like that. Not all are like that. Don't blame yourself. You did nothing wrong from what I can take out of this situation.

Your brother loves you...but there is a point in his life that he needs to live his own life that doesn't mean that you mean any less or he loves you any less your brother will always love you... you need to tell your mom to give him a break that he has his own life...doesn't mean that he is walking out she needs to give him his space thats problaly why he hasn't came around much...but i wouldn't worry he is your family and he'll always be there! you'll understand more when you go off to college and start life!

No that is not it. Your mom has issues. Your brother loves you very much and he is just doing what he thinks is best for him and his career. he wants to have his own life...he didn't go to college for four years to waste his degree. You did nothing wrong. Good Luck!

No it doesn't

You mom seems to have serious mental issues and can't accept your father left her, so she is trying to put the blame on anyone she can.