Future with Indian Married Man?

He's already told you that he's not going to divorce his wife and no matter how much whining, complaining, yelling, etc you do he's not going to. And why should he? He's got her when he goes home and YOU when he's where ever YOU are?? Pretty much the best of both worlds.

You have to decide if this is enough for you, but here's what's going to happen (print this so you can read it later). You're either going to make an ultimatum, "me or her" or you're going to start getting old, and a little saggy, and either way he's in the wind. You'll run into him only to find out he has a NEW girlfriend, about the age you are now, and he's still married.

Win win for him because he always has a young hot girlfriend, AND a wife so he can't get married to the latest and greatest honey,

lose lose for you because all you'll end up with is, well, nothing.

This man will NEVER leave his wife and your life will be a constant battle. Leave him and find someone better. What he is doing is disgusting. For all you know, this man could even have a third girlfriend. And yes, it is very common for married Indian med to f**k around and think nothing of it...

You chose your path when you chose to date a married man. You have no rights to him or his time. He will see you when it is convenient only. He is married do you understand that he will NEVER marry you as he will never get a divorce - its against his religion to do so. So take what he offers or get out of the relationship.

I have no respect for you or him, you are both deplorabley wrong in your actions.

You seriously think there is nothing wrong with this picture?? if he claims he loves you only then dont you think he would have left his wife already... culture nor ethnicity make this right.... i feel sorry for your daughter

Why spoil your own life and break apart his sweet home. Can you .. or are you ready to take on the curse of this lady - am afraid not. Look for a nice decent single guy - am sure you would find a no of them around. Simply drop this guy - he may some day probably even do the same with you - then what are you going to do. Give a mind on that.

I believe its not love but pure lust - and you will feel the heat - when the lust dies down.

Don't let yourself so low.

May GOD bless you with some good judgment.

It would be very difficult to leave this cheat - unless you are too strong @ heart n mind.

Looks like a story of wanting to keep the cake and eat it too.

Dont let him play around with you. He has to decide who he wants to settle down with. On a long run, what is his brilliant plan of being with you? When he gets the first chance, he will leave you for his wife... becos like all Indian men, he has to answer a big set of ppl back in India.

So... i see no future here. End it, on a long run, such messed up relationships dont work

wow, this is really tough, at the moment it doesnt sound like anything's going to change because his wife and kids need him so much, only if you're 100% sure that you guys have a future then you should hang on and wait, otherwise i would end things now before you get too hurt, but im rooting for you!! i was in a similar situation (sucks to be "the other girl" doesnt it?) and i totally understand the jealousy, its just natural, but if you know and believe that someday things will change, keep it up! I did, and now im with the guy of my dreams, 9 months now (16 months undercover), but he wasnt married or had kids.....in any case, good luck!

he is honest and has opened his whole life to you, it's not about indian or american i have seen many americans haveing extra maritial affairs like you. like ny governor, bill clinton, mayor of texas and long list..yes it may not be right but do you intend to marry then you should think aobut settling your life but if you think you have some future with this guy and patience bear sweet fruit

He will never leave his wife. He is just playing you. Using you until he doesnt need you anymore. Trust me, you are wasting your time. WASTING your time. You are only going to end up heartbroken. He will NEVER leave his wife. Can you seriously love someone and think of some kind of future together when he is NEVER going to leave his wife? Tell him, its her, or you. He needs to pick one ASAP! Stop wasting your time on this man. So what if he has money. Apparantly he thinks money can buy extra companionship? How do you know he doesnt have sex with her? An honest man wouldnt sleep with other women while married. THerefore, I wouldnt believe a word that spewed from his mouth!

That Indian male is totally disgusting. I just wonder how can you............is sex the only thing in life. Love is not Sex only. That man is just using you. Come out of this relationship respectably. From what you wrote I do not believe a single word of that shameless fellow....sorry!