does anybody else have this problem? how do i get over it?

Think before you speak. Don't rush in with an answer or comment. Say what your about to say to yourself. If it sounds dumb don't say it.

ALSO - practice the art of being a good listener. Let the other person talk. Ask them questions about themselves. People love to talk about themselves.

I feel like I'm in the same boat as you. I think I am slowly changing, but a lot of the times my nerves get the best of me. I think I've made progress (besides from being put into these situations) but trying to put myself into the mental frame of mind that says everyone else is just like you. Nobody is better or worse, we're all human. And that frame of mind also says people have more stuff to do than judge you every second you are talking in order to catch every single flaw. I don't know if that would work for you...it's a weird way I've thought about it and it seems to have helped me a bit.

You may think you look really nerdy and ugly but speaking from experience, looks only go so far. It is what is inside that counts, and every girl will like a different type of guy. Don't be talkative just to attract the ladies (but at the same time, don't be a mute either) if that's your only goal. While it is great to start talking more and getting over shyness, try to be a good listener too.

Most important thing is to be yourself, but understand "yourself" is constantly undergoing change, hopefully always for the better. =) Good luck!

Your self confidence has a lot to do with whether or not people are attracted to you. By the way you talk yourself down, I would say that is your problem. Have a little confidence in yourself. If you believe you are the sh*t, more than likely others will start to think it as well.

Try not to try too hard. Speak up when it is something of interest being said, or something that you know a lot about. There are TONS of girls out there with the same problem as you. Learn to love yourself first and everything will fall into place. ;)

You are probably getting really nervous and trying way too hard, which can make you say really stupid things. I am a very talkative and outgoing person in class, so I have had this problem before when there was somebody in the class I had a crush on. Just take it slow at first and be really careful what you say. And also, be sure not to talk way too much because you will start to get on peoples nerves. :]]

hmmmm, make money. lots. then the chicks will be all over you and wont give a toss what you say or do as long as it means they can go shopping. being talkative is not the way for an ugly nerd to get some trim, it's the way an ugly nerd wastes precious money making time! Let's use Howard Stern as an example. You think that hot piece Beth would let him touch her naughty bits if he didn't have more money than god?

We all say awkward things that we wish we could take back. The only way to really remedy the situation is to laugh it off. If you play off your "mistakes" with humor, then you can get people to laugh it off as well and they'll forget about it. It'll make them feel more comfortable around you because it'll show them that you can laugh at yourself, but by admitting your mistakes, you're also showing confidence.

The next time you say something that maybe isn't the best thing to have said, just follow it up with a sarcastic comment, like, "wow. Did I really just say that?" Make sure not to beat yourself up over it, either. This should work, and I wish you well in future social situations. Don't worry; you're not the only one. Everyone says some weird things ;] Good luck!

*edit: You say you're not sure how to show that you're confident. I know it's a bit hard to figure out, but all you have to do is practice! Even when you don't feel like your best, act like you are; you can (and will) make people believe that you are comfortable in who you are as a person, and that will draw people toward you. Naturally, people are followers, and they're going to gravitate toward anyone they feel can lead...and that means they'll gravitate toward someone they perceive as confident and comfortable in their skin. And just by acting like you're comfortable with yourself, you actually will become comfortable with yourself. Odd thing about the human psyche...the mind is a powerful thing! If you don't think you can be funny, just practice. You don't have to kill the crowd with laughter, but just showing that you can laugh the little things off and not take yourself too seriously will definitely win you some major brownie points. Eventually, you'll be able to get others to laugh WITH you instead of at you. I really hope this helps. Now get out there and start showing those people how cool you are :]

you know what... FUaCk what other people think about you. the good girls out there are looking for a girl with GOOD personalities.. someone that can treat them right and wont treat them any different around his frens. someone that will aCT himself regardless of the situation,. so my point is it should not matter how you talk or if you say something stupid... im a A/B average student and VERY loud and talkative.. 3/4 of the thinsg i say are ridiculous and stupid.. but i dont care becauce there are hella people that like and love me for Me being my self and you should feel the same way..

holy cow, i totally know what you mean!!!! every single time i talk and try to be friendly and outgoing, i ALWAYS, without a doubt end up sticking my foot straight into my mouth. i think it may be because i don't always think before i speak, or think carefully before doing so, anyway, maybe it's in your attempts to be funny (i don't know the exact circumstances, ya know) but it backfires or something? because that happens to me too! i usually just laugh it off..but i don't let it get me down, just keep that confidence of yours high, and being talkative should be easy, but maybe try being a little more careful with what it is you say...good luck, bud!

I am like you when I am around guys.

Except I come off as a know-it-all snob into things like Danish films since I'm so nervous inside I want to vomit.

I stay away from men because of it. I am nervous wreck who is suicidally bent.

Please save yourself from this mental fate. It is worse than hell because you are stuck on Earth.

Its fixable I realized, but I think I'm almost too far gone.

If you are confident in one or two subjects- sports or music -- then you'll be fine.

refering to the description of your question: you're not being yourself at all, what i mean was, you said it yourself that you're often shy and reserved but you get all these bad impressions when ever your talkative... why not try to be talkative but still be be yourself?

be yourself dude! its not going to hurt if you show them the real you, maybe you will be accepted more if you are yourself than posing as somebody else. and hey don't be hard on yourself by saying your not attractive, be confident in yourself and don't put yourself down...