I wonder why I can't let go?

I assume b/c of ur relationship with ur baby's father u still have contact with this past girlfriend. Have u ever been able to tell her how u felt? Even though u have moved on past the relationship with ur baby's father u may still need closure regarding ur relationship with ur friend.

I would find a way to tell her how u feel in a non threatening manner, without the drama, and accusations. Simply stating that I felt hurt when u started dating my baby's father b/c it closed off the possibility of us ever dating again. I felt the rule of not dating ur friends man was broken and I felt betrayed. Something like that. She may be receptive. However u need to gage this before u talk to her. If she is the type to be confrontational, argumentive, etc. u will be wasting ur time.

How is ur relationship with ur baby's father? Talk ur feelings over with a non biased party and get their opinion. It doesn't sound like u want to get back with ur baby's daddy but just want a response for ur friends betrayal, especially since u are still in contact with her due to her relationship with ur ex.

Good luck

That's a loaded question. First off, if you didn't ever get closure on it with her, then that will always plague your mind. And also, I think there may be a certain amount of guilt about how you handled it or feeling that you may have abondoned your child because of it. (Not saying you did though, but's it a common reaction.) As well, you may not so much miss your friend or partner as much as you miss the way you felt when you were around them and everything was fun. You need to let someone else do that for you now. You need to replace those people in your mind and give the here and now a chance. Best of luck

Because you can't forgive if you can't forget. Do you still harbor feelings for your ex? That could have a great deal to do with it as well. If so, you need closure which you should have gotten before you began this new chapter in your life. I assure you if you don't take care of it, both chapters will fuse together and you are in for one helluva a horror story. Personally, I would say screw him and he's not worth any emotions you did have. I know I wouldn't waist em on him if he did me like that. Then again, it could be that you may have a competition thing going with your friend and some how feel that she is still winning. Either way, get to the bottom of it and do it soon. Good luck and God bless!

it could still bother you bc to this day you could had the man of your dreams.. and a great happy family, without the step father, and all this and that.. but since your "ex" friend came along now everything is different. I hope that it's different in a good way though, and things are better than before.. and hopefully now you dont have to worry about a cheating husband.

It must of been quite a shock for your friend to have an affair with your baby's father. It sounds like you have moved on but these things will usually stay and haunt us for a while with what ifs and could of beens but.....

it usually gets interesting when you catch up with them accidently in a supermarket or park and you see he's a drunk and she is a compulsive smoker gained 25 kilos and both cant stand the sight of each other then it all makes sense!

Trust me I am speaking from experience

bcoz u let the incident stay in ur mind and the betrayal feeling in ur heart. if u just accept that whatever happened was for a reason,it will not bother u that much. these kind of things are part of life. nobody ever said life was fair.

You are not completely over it. You get reminded every time you see them you talk to them. You haven't healed all the way yet. This takes a while to heal and you will be fine and probably want care anymore. That man probably wasn't the man GOD design for you anyways. everything happens for a reason, remember that and watch what happens next, you'll be surprised.

sometimes if someone betrays you it could scare you for a long time.you can't easily trust anyone again because you don't wanna end up getting hurt. just forget about it now you have a great family and a life so be happy with what you have and be careful.

The 1st marriage experience will linger but bad memories need to be let go and go on in life. Forgive and forget,let go and let god.