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I am a scorpio female and I met a scorpio male. This was a meet and greet. We had a couple of conversations over the phone before we meet however I noticed that the guy would get MIA on me alot. Our conversations would never be complete... with him being in a hurry stating that he needs to call me back and don't or I will text and he wouldn't respond until later, so we made plans to hook up and yes I stood him up like three times because of this bizarre behavior of his. He confronted me about it and as I stated above I told him why I didn't fall through with our plans of meeting because of his MIA tendencies. This guy had a way to turn things around on me which he did that night when he made me feel bad for standing him up even though I felt like I had good reasons to so yes...I gave in and let him come over to my house and why did I do that. OMG he was the best that I had sexually the guy got it going on and that's putting it lightly after wards he just held me through the night until the next morning. That's when the games beginned. He continue to go MIA but at this point I am wanting some more and he knew this...he even told me that he want me to pursue him now because I stood him up...he would play with my emotions by not answering his texts then he would respond by stating how he wants me to give into him and so forth. Now I know this is a waist of my time. However, I can't let go what is the damn problem?

This is my second failed relationship that is not your normal breakup. The first guy that I was involved with was an abuser (mentally, physically) the second one which is now my husband is more of on emotional abuser, user than anything else. Right now people I feel really low. I blame myself for two failed relationships. It never seem to amaze me how not only are these guys have mental issues but I have suffered mentally just by being with these men. I guess the whole point of writing this is to reach out to anyone that's with a borderline which he is the one that tops all the relationships I been in. I feel trapped because trying to leave I am expecting punishment whether it's isolations, lies that he spreads about the events that happens in our relationship, using me and my assesses further for his gain and purpose or whatever one can think of. His attitude is above all else scary. In the past he has damaged my belongings, throw tantrums and rages if he does not get his way, denies he has a problem even though clinically its been stated, blames me for everything, he is never wrong. An event can happen only for him later whether it's a second or hours after only for him to recall a different story. I tried expressing my feelings to him stating "I feel" only for him to say I am putting him down so a lot of the time I just hold my feelings in. He threatens my life over and over again especially since his mother had died about two years ago which to mention he only got worse mentally. He won't keep a job leaving me to be not only the woman in the house but the man as well. What I can't figure out though is you don't even care that you put this stress on me even though I have told you this over and over. When he does work I ask for bill money only to go into a whole big situation about him not having the money. I had to come to the conclusions that he just using me. But, he says that I am crazy. We are in the process of a divorce. Even though he refuse to leave my house. I am forced to get a restraining order. I have been called everything from Snitch to Police just because I calls for help (911) when he acts crazy anyone would think that I am scared not knowing what he is capable of doing. He is currently trying to get as many people against me as he can at this point because I want out. He lies to people so they won't find out the true person behind the mask (BPD). I feel real down people because he knew me and my family aren't close so I don't have anyone to talk to about what I am going through but professionals. Where that is find talking to experts it's always help to have a listening ear elsewhere. I am really disappointed that I have made this mistake again.

Forgive me. This is my first time on here as well as being married. I feel at this point I have no were to turn emotionally. I feel bad that my marriage is heading toward divorce already giving that we haven't even been married a year. My spouse and I have been together a total of six years though. My spouse mentality is one sided. I feel that I have put so much in this relationship this far and I don't know if I am willing to go the extra mile to try to save it. I have been through a time with him when he didn't want to work leaving me to take care of us. I am currently a prisoner by his manipulation, he doesn't believe his wrong in anything that he do. I feel that he think I am super woman. I work full-time, go to school full-time, have three kids and a home. I fail to comply with all the things that I have to do listed above because I can't do all of these things alone. I have tried to explain this to him and all I get is, "there's people out there that does it everyday." I make more money than him on my job but, they say that we make to much to be able to get food stamps which in my opinion we need those benefits. I told him that I may have to go part-time in order to achieve everything that needs to be done. I don't get any support on that issue other than you can do it. What kills me the most is at times I feel like his against me. Any typical conversation that we have always lead to him denouncing me as a person. Before, marriage he use to help me with the house now I don't get that at all. I try to talk to him about my concerns and all he do is put blame on me, overtalk me, curse me, turn away from me. Sex, on the other hand is an issue as well. He loves sex which is typical for any guy I believe. However, I have slacked off giving him some due to his bad attitude to where I am turned off majority of the time. Currently, I work the night shift. When I come home especting sleep I am awoke to him wanting to eat. Which, in that issue he only once again thinking of himself. He has told me before that he has taken me for granted. I feel like we living that cycle again. I do admit. I haven't been on my game when it comes to our children as far as discpline because I am tired or sleepy. I feel that I can't win with this man. A part of me wants to bypass counseling all together. Alot of me wants out and, only a small percentage of me wants in. His has pushed me away with his ways and bad attitude. Do you think I should stay?

Its this guy from my past that I was in and out of sexual relations with. I had a man at the time and he knew it. I felt that I had good reasons to cheat on my man with this guy from my past. I could tell as we kept messing that he was getting aggravated at the fact that I have a man at home. Well, six years later, I moved away meet someone else and married, learned from my mistakes in the past and so on. The only thing is this person who I was messing with in the beginning with my ex boyfriend caught wind that I was in town. He immediately went through my sources to get in contact with me again even gave me his number. Now I am confused. He became upset when we was messing and I have a man so why do he want to enter in the same situation with me again not to mention this time I am married. I would like to believe in make believe that this person might has feelings for me. Don't worry I haven't called the guy but, I just wonder. What do u think.

Just to feel you in I have always had a crush on the guy that I cheated on my boyfriend with. We grew up together. The only reason why I cheated on my ex boyfriend with this guy because this guy put me through alot of hard ache and pain, I was young, he was getting his well before I started getting mine. Even though two wrongs don't make a right.

what would you do if you was attracted to a person from the past and your married? When things wasn't going well in your relationship you kept in contact with this person whom you cannot stop thinking about. He was clingy to you but you went and got back with your husband. You go out of town were this person lives and when he or she found out you was in town, he or she has been seen at places were if you was still in town would be. You know it's wrong but even after all this time you still couldn't get this person off your mind? What's up with that?

I noticed in the city where I live alot of designer purses such as DB, Coach, Doulce and others are sold on the street which is a good thing when you can get it cheaper. However, I noticed alot of these purses are not the real deal. Do you have this problem in your area? Tell me about it?

In a situation that I don't know what to do. I recently just got married and regretting it already. My significant other doesn't work and at times I feel like he is using me. He always make up excuses as to why he is not working. We have it hard trying to make ends meet inwhich my income alone cannot pay for everything. His quick fix for our money problem is never to get a job instead its always borrowing, ponding, or something like that. A part of me want a divorce. Then the other part of me is saying be patient and wait. He notice the fustration that I am going through and instead of him getting on the ball to find a job he would rather threaten suicide for me to feel sorry for him. Help!

My best friend husband all ways had it hard keeping a job. He seems drawn to the neighbors by running over to their house three to four times daily, (the friends are males). It's been atleast three months since he had a job. What do you think I should tell her? Do you think she should even be mad if he goes over to the neighbor house?

About six to seven years ago a friend betrayed me and went off and married my baby father. Since then I got married, had another child, moved, everything is different. I wonder why would the betrayal still bother me still this day.

It seem like my husband and I are on a unhealthy routine. Right now my husband is looking for work so giving that he does not work at the present time he watch after our kids alot. I mean, I work night shift so....when I get home from work I am sleep majority of the day. This happens over and over while he watches the kids. I feel that we desperatly need change in our home life. It tends to get boring alot. The only time we do venture the day out is on my off day and even then if we broke were in the house. Any suggestions?

I have a friend that complains that her sex drive has been real low since she been on her anti-depressants. She even complain about not having an appetite. Any suggestions?

would you be upset if your husband/wife wanted to go out to the club with some friends while you at work? Honest answers.

My husband's mother past away recently. Of course he is having a hard time dealing with the lost. His behavior however scare me a little and I don't know if I should seek him some help. He even stated that he wish he was dead. What would you do?

To refer back to the post that I posted, yes that person is me. I am not sure If I should marry him even though I love him alot. A part of me want to marry him so that the fornacation would stop, then the other part feels that I might be making a mistake if I do. But, he left and that have me confused even though he wants to come back.

I know someone that has been with this guy of whom they have a child together. He has proposed and for a year they have been engaged. However, some things has happened where he left (not seeing eye to eye) and now wants to come back home. She feels that even when they go through they ups and downs they some how connect and try to work things out as though they are already married even though he has alot to work on within himself. Do you think that she should quit prolonging the wedding and just get married?

Have you ever had a friend that complains about her boyfriend treating her bad (only when their broken up), to only ignore your calls and visits when they get back together?

Problem: Your in a relationship. You really love this person. You deserve better. The love on your part is to strong to leave.

Question: Do you really believe that you truly can end a relationship being inlove with that person? Is it so easy to pull away even if you can have better?

How would you deal with an ex that broke up with u to pursue a dream for music out of town before Christmas, only for him or her to call you repeatly afterwards?

What are the signs of a gay man that claim to be straight?

If you wronged someone (deceived, cheated,) would you avoid calling them?