Situation that needs answers?

Was he working before you married him? If so why did he quit his job? If he was not working why did you marry a man who did not have a job?

As for the threats of suicide, your husband needs professional help for this, you cannot help him with this..

Seek counseling for your husband and also marriage counseling for your both.

Best of Luck

That's not... good.

It's not terribly fair for you that you're the only one working while you make it sound like all he's doing is, well, what he's not doing is getting a job and helping out with the finances.

You should probably sit down one day and just have a serious talk with him. I'm not saying you don't or never have, just that this time don't go for any of his usual reasons - borrowing, ponding, or something like that.

Is he going through a tough time in his life right now? Maybe there's something that he's not telling you for whatever reason (afraid, nervous, etc.) that's preventing him from getting a job, which is all the more reason to have that serious talk with him.

It's not terribly mature for him to threaten you with suicide. I know, it hurts and yeah, you get scared, I mean, you don't want to live this kind of life but you don't want him to end his either. Do you think he'll follow through with his threats?

I say yeah, go talk to him. And, depending on what he says, you can give him a waiting period (a week, a month, etc.) to see if he improves, like going out and looking for a job, getting a job and holding it, helping to improve your financial situation, etc. If not, then give him an ultimatum: help me or it's bye bye.

Hello,

It seems like you're gought through some hard times in your marriage. That's not abnormal, a lot of young couples go through hard times, and the first 3 years are often the toughest.

About your situation specifically, the first thing I must say is that if your husband is threatening suicide, perhaps he should see a professional. Perhaps he is saying he is suicidal to manipulate you and make you feel guilty. Perhaps is is seriously depressed and needs clinical help. Let's not take that risk and help him to get checked out.

About your concern that you are the only one working and putting effort in, I want to say that it seems you have a really good point. A marriage is to be a partnership, and your spouse needs to work, just like you, to help make ends meet.

It seems that simply telling him to get a job is not going to be enough to motivate him to participate in this way, and without details I can't provide any specific information on how to bring the two of you together to be a team. Perhaps stressing that to him, that you want to work with him, to be a team, so that the two on you can have a good and comfortable life might help.

If you do not see the marriage improving, and you feel the two of you are still in trouble, I would recommend talking to a trusted friend, or counselor. Hope this helps!

Life is short - marriage is a partnership. If he does not want to work and pull his weight then you are probably better off without him and threatening suicide is only a way of wanting to control you. Call his bluff - place a bet that he does'nt go through with it.

He sounds like a selfish, immature, lazy deadbeat. Sorry. He's the man--he's perfectly healthy and sitting around on his butt letting you struggle to make ends meet. I don't think so...you're gonna spend the rest of your life with him--til death do you part???

Didn't you see his character BEFORE marriage??? It couldn't have just came "out of the blue". Either he would get up and DO SOMETHING or GET OUT!

You didn't see this when you decieded to get married. He must hve not had a job then. Chances are you will be living this way your entire life. Give him an ultamatium, then stick with it or continue this way your're entire married life.

Why would you marry a man who doesnt work..Tell him either get a job and stop being so lazy or the marriage is over....

It sounds like he wants everything to be taken care of for him, he shouldn't threaten to kill self just cuz he dosen't want to work if he contuines to act like that you should try to find someone else that will help you because you guys have to work together not just one.

For better or for worse hunny. Stick with it. Maybe he will work soon. Don't just give up....Now if it goes on for years....Get a divorce. no one wants a worthless man

move on get a divorce or seek counseling because it seems like a lost case