what's wrong with us?

hope. hope that this is a tough phase in life that you'll get thru. take a walk after dinner. i used to read outloud to my family some novels like harry potter while we were driving instead of listening to music for example. if you do things together that you can all enjoy...well, things like that work for people who want to keep their family together. good luck. i pray you put a little romance into your relationship with hubby (be bf/gf sometimes :) have your kids sleep over at a family members house or friend. good luck

There is nothing wrong with you. Your both doing a damn good job in a really hard situation. I don't know if you have any family that can take the kids for a night or two to give you a bit of time together. Tell your man you know its tough for both of you. Your doing your best, things will change. Think about what you would bothreally like and try and get a plan to work towards it. Pick stuff that can actually happen, like a trip to the beach, a change of job or going to school. I admire families that pull together in tough times you know it feels like it will never end, your tired and your world is opposite to everyone elses, but you will get there because you keep at it.

Have you tried talking to your husband about how you feel?

He probably feels the same and maybe you have discussed it, but many couples not only have the same routine they have the same conversation over and over without talking about what they want.

Simple exercise- Each of you write down 5 things you need to be happy in a relationship (this should exclude child/family issues). Then, sit down and share those things. They are probably similar at the core. More attention, more time together, more intimacy, more appreciation, and a vision of the future together.

It starts with communication.

I wish you well.

Matt D.

The same is my case ,just that my husband works night shifts and I take care of the house, he sleeps throughout the day.

But poor guy ensures that he spends maximum time with me, he sleeps only 6 hours . So that he can spare some time for family, and on Offs we ensure that we go out to a very nice place to unstress ourselves

Do free stuff! Parks and stuff, loo it up, street fairs, pack lunches, take the kids to the park, sit and read together, you can get out, go to the library, read the same book and talk about it, find good activities in your town for the whole fam that are free or almost free. Street fairs are free, but tell the kids, we brought a picnic, (pack drinks too!) and you can each have an ice cream.... bike ride hike etc... kids love exploring nature and creeks and feeding ducks..... Share these precious moments with your husband.

He can't look for work while watching the kids. I would suggest you let someone else watch them and let him look for a job. Then you want be broke and you can do things that cost money. If not then you will have to get creative and do homemade special things for each other.

Maby you should change working night shift and work during the day, also get someone else to watch the kids because it will be harder for him to look for work if he has to watch them

First don't put him down for not having a job...When a man has worked all there life and they think they can't provide for there family it makes them go in depression...I have been there....Help him to find a job and tell him you are not pushing him but the bills are piling up and you can't do this by yourself...talk with him and call any staff marts around your area and they will help him to help his self

i agree with bilinda , you need to find someone to watch the kids so he can actually find work...hopefully he can find something to work with your schedules, but i would say you need to play the grandma card or family card or something for a weeked and have a night to yourselves at home, watch a movie, cuddle, have a nice romantic diner, anything to put the spark back in the relationship, good luck i hope you figure it out!

You knwo what it doesn't matter how nice your husband is, if his not working he will get use of the not working situation and will not work! my suggestion would be to push him to get a job! any job helps, that way you won't have to work that much and you won't be tired and you will get to spend more time with your family and him! make him work! it doesn't have to be an office job but he has to work