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Future Brother-in-law troubles....Please help!?
I'm getting married in 2 weeks, and have a problem with my future brother in law. He doesn't include me in anything and he always asks my faince (his brother) if they can just have "Brother days" without me coming along and such. I feel left out that he does this.
What should I do? Should I talk to him? What should I say?
I would like to get to know him, but he has been just rude to me since I have met him. I think he feels like he is going to lose his older brother.
He is 23 and older than me by 1 year~
2 Answers
- musicmanLv 41 decade agoFavorite Answer
That is a natural feeling for a sibling to feel like someone is taking away their brother and/or sister. They realize that after a sibling gets married, there will be a detachment from someone they have grown up and raised with. It is really difficult for that sibling. What YOU can do is when you see your fiancee's brother, pull him to the side, sit down and talk with him and let him know that you understand how he is feeling and that your intentions are only good. Once you open up with him in this way, he will respect you a little more..however, don't expect respect overnight, in this situation......it's a gradual thing.
- coldfishLv 41 decade ago
Just talk with him. Say "hey, I have been feeling that my presence in your brother's life is making you feel like you are losing him." If he gets defensive or anything say "Oh, good it was just me. You know nervous about meeting the whole family and such. I guess I overreacted." Just try to sound like you're understanding and not accusing him.
