Am I being foolish staying married to a man who doesn't support my decisions/ideas/choices?

Sadly, you are making a mistake staying with a man like that.

You need someone to build you up, not drag you down.

Let's turn this around a little. I'm not there so all i can say is what kind of decisions are you making? Are you making life changing decisions that affect you and him? Did you ever think that he might feel like you are taking chances that could impact you both? You say his career is floundering. Could it be that he is worried about losing everything because of the decisions your making? When you are married you are one. All decisions effect both. Not just one. It's hard to call this because we are only getting one side of the story here. I am not saying that he isn't jealous. It's possible. But are you just seeing what you want to see? Are you just believing what you want to believe? Did you ever think he might be scared shytless because of some of the things you are doing and the decisions your making. Every thing you do or he does impacts both. All i am saying is look close at yourself and make sure that you understand what he is thinking. Put yourself in his place. Try to look at it through his eyes. Talk to him before it's to late. Maybe he sees something you can't. (EDIT TO MY LAST POST)

It almost sounds like he is depressed. Sometimes when guys get depressed they act this way. I think down deep inside maybe he might feel like he is not where he belongs and that's why he want's to leave. Right now i am in that boat. I can't seem to get anywhere living where i am living. I am going to have to leave here if i am going to make a living. Maybe that is the way he feels. He can't get started where he is in his career so it makes him feel less a man. Stuff like this really hurts a guy.

That doesn't sound too good. Maybe your husband is generally just a glass-half-empty person? Was he like this before you married him?

If your husband seems to doubt just you (and not everyone else as well) then it sounds like there is a problem. Constant negativity will wear anyone down fast. Sounds like maybe he's somewhat controlling. Sometimes people don't realize how negative/dismissive/unapproving they can be toward others. Maybe you can remind him that you're both supposed to be on the same team, not opposing teams, and that the marriage doesn't stand much of a chance if he's going to give you a hard time about everything under the sun.

As long as he is still married to her he is legal obligated to continue his support. He needs to get an official divorce with a support order specifically designating how much will be given for the children. If he doesn't live in a no-fault state then he can use her indiscretion against her as evidence that he should not be liable for alimony. However, because he has you for a girlfriend she will also be able to make the same claims. Although, you hooked up after his separation the truth is he is still legally married and your relationship is considered adulterous.

I think your Hubby is probally Jealous. Some Men need to feel like they are in control. Have you ever tried just sittign down and talking to him about not supporting you decisions,Ideas, or choices? You should also tell him how important it is for him to support you and If the tables were turned Im sure he would care to be treated that way! You are not a fool though you just need to work throught the kinks. Hope this Helped a little. Take care.

Did you talk to him as clearly as you have told us your feelings about your husband?I think no decision of splitting up should be taken one sided / without communication or in a haste..Tell him how you feel.Give him some time to think about it and analyse himself..If he really loves and respects you he would surely try to change his attitude towards you..relationships should never be taken for granted..and do not run away from the problems..Try to solve them..you will grow stronger and wiser.

Maybe he's afraid of your indepence. Go on girlfriend. Live your life and prosper. Grow. Do well. And if he can't handle that? Well, he'll just have to make some decision and choices of his own.

well hes eing a typical manly man. good choice.. u need to be understanding, that he feels he dosent have any power, or isn bringing the money home to the table. most men need to feel needed or they go crazy... ur taking away everything he stands for. its tuff. just try to understand, nothings wrong, start asking him to do things make him feel important, maybe break something in the house and ask him to fix it, make him feel like a man and u depend on him.. hes only putting u down because hes hurt that hes not fullfilling his many duties and he wants u to look up to him...

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Well, is he simply criticizing you, or being downright unsupportive in everything?

Remember, its not bad that he has different opinions than you, and never expect him to agree with you just because.

I can't tell you more without knowing more about your situation.

he cant be perfect himself...sounds like he just want to make u feel bad so that he can control u....