Would you date someone who has borderline personality disorder?

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Would you date someone who has borderline personality disorder ?Why or why not? Here is a explanation of BPD, if you are not familiar.

The main feature of borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a pervasive pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image and emotions. People with borderline personality disorder are also usually very impulsive. 

The pattern is present in a variety of settings (e.g., not just at work or home) and often is accompanied by a similar lability (fluctuating back and forth, sometimes in a quick manner) in a person’s emotions and feelings. Relationships and the person’s emotion may often be characterized as being shallow.

A person with this disorder will also often exhibit impulsive behaviors and have a majority of the following symptoms:

-Frantic efforts to avoid real or imagined abandonment 
-A pattern of unstable and intense interpersonal relationships characterized by alternating between extremes of idealization and devaluation 
-Identity disturbance: markedly and persistently unstable self-image or sense of self 
-Impulsivity in at least two areas that are potentially self-damaging (e.g., spending, sex, substance abuse, reckless driving, binge eating) 
-Recurrent suicidal behavior, gestures, or threats, or self-mutilating behavior 
-Affective instability due to a marked reactivity of mood (e.g., intense episodic dysphoria, irritability, or anxiety usually lasting a few hours and only rarely more than a few days) 
-Chronic feelings of emptiness 
-Inappropriate, intense anger or difficulty controlling anger (e.g., frequent displays of temper, constant anger, recurrent physical fights) 
-Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation or severe dissociative symptoms

dizzkat · Accepted Answer

I have and it was a roller coaster ride for 5 years. The anger issues were rarely pointed my way but were always there toward people in general. The cycles are apparent after a while tho the other person seems not to feel any different, their behaviors give signals. 
I would not do it again unless that person was receiving treatment.

Anonymous · Answer

First off WOW, u r a pretty amazing man. If you are going to stay friends with her you need to be able to separate friendship and more than that. Let her know you care about her by check in in if it means that much too you, but you deff need to start over with someone else baby. BPD's is not curable I have seen it first hand with my aunt very scary and personally gets worse w age. Yes they need to be loved but it take a VERY stronge person to love someone fully with this disorder. Your life will be soooo different and well to be honest you will prob never have alife by some point. I would love to talk more w you please email me im Amanda

doug a · Answer

I have to ask myself this question would anyone without a personality disorder date me?

You can date them for sure but your actually not in control of who you fall in love with at the end of the day, so yepp I would.

M&amp;U · Answer

Personally I wouldn't because that person doesn't need the extra burden to carry. I know I'm a difficult person and that I wouldn't be tolerant forever, that wouldn't be fair for me or him. Also if I had a borderline personality disorder, I would want to work it out before I start dating, because I wouldn't be making life difficult for me but for that person too.

tangerine · Answer

If I knew for a fact that someone had BPD, I definitely wouldn't date him. I have clinical depression, ADHD, and anxiety myself, so I've already got enough problems and the last thing I need or want is to get involved with someone whose problems are even worse than mine. For that matter, I've even decided to not become seriously involved with anyone, because I don't want to burden anyone with my problems.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I wouldn't. I think it's not a good idea for someone to date a borderline.

Given the symptoms, it could get dangerous and also reckless.

Anonymous · Answer

Not in a million years. Any hint of it or ANY Cluster B/C and Paranoid PD, and I am OUT THE DOOR.

kaddy · Answer

yes i would but only if they where already working on their issues with a therapist and taking meds (if needed)

BT · Answer

Been there, done that. Not very eager to date another one.

Anonymous · Answer

to be honest these are not very attractive

i guess it depends on 
do you have any qualities ?

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