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My family member has a plenary order of protection filed against him by his wife (soon to be ex) for alleged domestic violence (pushed her away when she tried to shove him down the stairs after surgery). It is a War of the Roses kind of divorce. He drove down the street where his house is to see if his 19 year old was having a beer bash (she has rights to the home and children live with her during the 1 year supervision), did not stop the car but simply passed by and she is having him arrested for breaking the order. I have read the entire order and no where does it say he cannot be on the street. We are confused and don't know why this is happening... he does not drive down the street daily, has not contacted her in any form except through 3rd party about children so the question is, what can happen? He has to turn himself in when he gets back to town and will have a bond hearing....but he didn't do anything wrong! how much will the bond be, and can he go to jail for this stupid reason? Help!

A family member owns his own business but has combined and meshed his personal finances with his business finances and not filed taxes for either one in going on 3 years. He thinks once he files he will get money back for child credits and such but I thought you can't get money back if you haven't paid any to start with. Obviously there are a great many details I am not going into for lack of space and boredom factor but am looking for basic guidance. He is broke and about to lose his house in foreclosure so any advice is welcome. Thanks for taking the time!

I am currently donating time to a lovely lady that has had some severe health issues but has had issues with hoarding. Her home is cluttered to the point she cannot use the rooms as they should be used. We have made good progress but it is so slow going.....and I am afraid she will slip back into the behaviour again as soon as we free up space.

She refuses therapy, and says she is committed to getting rid of stuff so she will be fine....but this is the 3rd time in her life she has reached this point. I don't want to make this worse or say the wrong thing so need advice on how best to help. She is in charge of what we keep, what is donated and what she wants to try to sell. We have a time constraint though because winter is coming and her heat elements are blocked. And she is not working on this at all on her own, only when myself and her caregiver are present which is 4 hours once a week.

Any advice is appreciated.

He/she is shedding around his head often and it does not totally come off. How do I deal with this and not harm him?

I put off paying the bills until after the holiday-bad move! This morning I was in the shower, shampooing and lo and behold the water disappeared! How the heck was I gonna go and pay the bill covered in soap?

If it was a requirement to pass, just like Public Speaking and The Constitution- what should it contain?

I am thinking that it should be several semesters and include:

Basic auto maintanence

Basic home maintanence

Budgeting/Finance

What additions would you make?

They are a little different than the traditional, popular one!

A Happy St Patrick's Day to you and yours!

A Wish for a Friend

Wishing you a rainbow

For sunlight after showers—

Miles and miles of Irish smiles

For golden happy hours—

Shamrocks at your doorway

For luck and laughter too,

And a host of friends that never ends

Each day your whole life through!

Or another favorite:

An Old Irish Blessing

May love and laughter light your days,

and warm your heart and home.

May good and faithful friends be yours,

wherever you may roam.

May peace and plenty bless your world

with joy that long endures.

May all life's passing seasons

bring the best to you and yours!

It asks for administrative password for some downloads and I don't have that. How do I find out what it is or reset it? Thanks.

To be posted VERY LOW on the refrigerator door - nose height.

Dear Dogs and Cats:

The dishes with the paw print are yours and contain your food. The

other dishes are mine and contain my food. Please note, placing a paw

print in the middle of my plate and food does not stake a claim for it

becoming your food and dish, nor do I find that aesthetically pleasing

in the slightest.

The stairway was not designed by NASCAR and is not a racetrack.

Beating me to the bottom is not the object. Tripping me doesn't help

because I fall faster than you can run.

I cannot buy anything bigger than a king sized bed. I am very sorry

about this. Do not think I will continue sleeping on the couch to

ensure your comfort. Dogs and cats can actually curl up in a ball when

they sleep. It is not necessary to sleep perpendicular to each other

stretched out to the fullest extent possible. I also know that

sticking tails straight out and having tongues hanging out the other

end to maximize space is nothing but sarcasm.

For the last time, there is not a secret exit from the bathroom. If

by some miracle I beat you there and manage to get the door shut, it

is not necessary to claw, whine, meow, and try to turn the knob or get

your paw under the edge and try to pull the door open. I must exit

through the same door I entered. Also, I have been using the bathroom

for years -- canine or feline attendance is not required.

The proper order is kiss me, then go smell the other dog or cat's

butt. I cannot stress this enough!

To pacify you, my dear pets, I have posted the following message on

our front door:

To All Non-Pet Owners Who Visit & Like to Complain About Our Pets:

1. They live here. You don't.

2. If you don't want their hair on your clothes, stay off the

furniture. (That's why they call it 'fur'nature.)

3. I like my pets a lot better than I like most people.

4. To you, it's an animal. To me, he/she is an adopted son/daughter

who is short, hairy, walks on all fours and doesn't speak clearly.

Remember: In many ways, dogs and cats are better than kids because they:

1. Eat less

2. Don't ask for money all the time

3. Are easier to train

4. Normally come when called (well, OK, the cat thinks about it)

5. Never ask to drive the car

6. Don't hang out with drug-using friends

7. Don't smoke or drink

8. Don't have to buy the latest fashions

9. Don't want to wear your clothes

10. Don't need a 'gazillion' dollars for college.

And finally,

11. If they get pregnant, you can sell their children.

One of mine is Janis Ian's "Seventeen"

of a favorite time as a child.

One of mine that reminds me of my grandparents is "That's Amore" by Dean Martin!

the older moms answering questions here? New technology and pediatric advice has changed infant and child care over the years so I wondered where our experience rates in the scheme of things!

What do feel is appropriate for kids and what ages.

2009 is looming, what is the number one area you would like to change to create a better life for yourself?

A. Want to celebrate on your birthday?

or

B. Celebrate on another day?

to the repair shop that is 14 miles away? I have no automotive experience and need to get the car from the repair shop that wants 920.00 to fix it to the one that has guaranteed the rate to be 520.00. I am tight on funds and am trying to avoid a tow bill. Suggestions?

sent a Christmas Gift to an ex?

I know he has no family and has had a really hard time the last few years but he seems to hold on to any contact I make as if it will lead to a rekindling of a relationship.

I am not thinking of sending anything personal, I know he is short on money and thought cigs and a box of his favorite gingersnaps and a simple Merry Christmas.........but don't want to put the wrong idea out there. Your thoughts?

I am curious as to how the younger generation of parents feel about vaccinating their children against the preventable illnesses.

For example, I deliberately exposed my kids to chicken pox so I would be sure they got them as kids and not later when the immunity wore off. But they received the other shots on schedule.