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Would I send the wrong message if I...........?

sent a Christmas Gift to an ex?

I know he has no family and has had a really hard time the last few years but he seems to hold on to any contact I make as if it will lead to a rekindling of a relationship.

I am not thinking of sending anything personal, I know he is short on money and thought cigs and a box of his favorite gingersnaps and a simple Merry Christmas.........but don't want to put the wrong idea out there. Your thoughts?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    Mate in my humble opinion what you plan is Ok, You, if I read this right, is to say Merry Xmas and here is soimething to help, nothing more, just a good person offering Xmas gift/greeting to another, But make it clear where you stand

    If you need it I will guard your 6

  • 1 decade ago

    Your going to do what you want to anyway but I truly think it will give him wrong signals. Guys don't take things the way women do. Sending a simple gift is a nice thought to us but to a guy it's a whole different meaning. Once I dated a guy that had just got divorce that year. I knew we were just friends but I want him to get him a birthday gift sense he was alone. I felt bad for the guy cause his ex was bing a b to him. Well he took it to a whole new level. There was no meaning behind it at all but to him it meant I wanted more. So I say don't learn the hard way. Just let it go if you don't want him to misunderstand what your doing.Don't let your common sense over rule your niceness.Your thinking it's a bad idea anyway that's why your asking us..right? Well go with your instincts here, you'll be better off.

  • 1 decade ago

    You can send him a card with cheery words and a nice little gift to cheer him, or if he left you for a lovely woman with a tight body wearing stiletto heels who dumped him for a quadriplegic on a skate board you just might say: Merry Christmas you lousy loser you. I put together a box of treats and cigs that I was going to send to you but then I met this wino bum who looked like he would appreciate them more and since he was a step up from the gutter that you like to wallow in I gave them to him, So good bye and good luck you lousy loser you. (So what do you think? Is it a tad too harsh?)

  • 1 decade ago

    Send the gift with a little card. Write: Just sending this to wish you a Merry Christmas, Your friend, -your name- or something to that effect, that way the message is clear.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well the wise men came from the east bearing gifts so I would say yes but be wise like the men from the east and don't make it to personal after all it's the season of goodwill towards all men and a token of friendship will surly not go wrong

  • 1 decade ago

    That doesn't sound risky at all. Just send a card along with the gift and make the card short and sweet. I think its really sweet that you still care about him!

    Best of luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    Normally, I think you know what my reply would be. Yet, given the spirit of the season, go for it! I know all the ins & outs of this past relationship. I think it'll be fine. If, said ex makes too much of it well, it'll be his problem alone! Might I add you are one caring human being.

  • flint
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Don't do it no matter what the season. Sounds to me like you might want to hold on to this guy, if you do then go ahead, otherwise forget it.

  • popken
    Lv 4
    4 years ago

    you're actual giving off mixed indicators. once you're relationship somebody, it is frequently no longer a good option to be texting yet another guy. it is only comparable to having a private communique with him. in case you found out your b/f replaced into reguarly having one-to-one private conversations with yet another female, a pal of yours, how could you experience? rather if he discovered her appealing - it is definitely certainly one of ways you experience approximately Jay. in case you like him to provide up texting you, provide up answering his texts. in case you do no longer desire to provide up him texting you, be truthful approximately it and take duty for what occurs next.

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