Should we continue or give it a rest?

I read your other question about losing faith in God because he hasn't answered your prayers. In a way your moms cancer could be an answer to you wanting a baby. I know that sounds unlikely but God answers prayers in ways we couldn't imagine. Maybe your mom's illness is exactly the distraction you need to take your mind off of ttc. It could be that you have not conceived until this point because God knows this pregnancy would be a good thing for you and your sick mother to find the hope and strength to beat this cancer. I believe God answers all prayers. Even those that we feel go unanswered he answers. He knows best.

I was told this true story by a woman that has a great faith in God. It is about a woman that was ttc and was praying daily for a healthy pregnancy and baby. After 8 months she was losing her faith in God because she could see all these people getting pregnant that didn't deserve a baby. Then she was in a terrible car accident and was in critical condition and needed emergency surgery. Really bad. She recovered from this in a couple of months and in a short time there after found out she was 6 weeks pregnant. She dropped to her knees and begged God to forgive her for doubting him. Had she gotten pregnant on her own time she would have most likely lost that baby to the terrible car wreck she was in. He answered her prayer on his time. He knows all and see all. He was there for her even when she doubted her faith and had lost hope in him.

Don't give up ttc but I know it won't be your main focus right now. Just go with it.

Please find a way to seek out God and pray to him.

I will be praying for you and your family!!!!

I'm so sorry about your Mother, I can't imagine what you must be feeling. You have been TTC for quite sometime now (over 2 yrs) you might not conceive within the next year or you might, only you can make that decision. If it were me, I wouldn't stop. You might be so focused on your Mother and what she's going through that you might become pregnant right away because you're not thinking about TTC. Then again you might not. I agree with the above poster who said this might give her something to look forward to.

What if you were already pregnant and found out this news? It wouldn't change anything for you. My Mother-in-law had cancer treatments the day before my wedding but she was still there, I know that's not the same but life goes on and I think because you and your husband haven't had any luck conceiving this far, I wouldn't stop.

You know we're only here to give our opinions, whatever you choose you know I know I'll be behind you! Good luck with whatever you choose, stay strong!

I would 'split the difference' and stop the 'trying' aspect of TTC. That is, you're still going to notice when you get EWCM and all that stuff, but maybe cut out the technical things like charting or OPKs. That way you can have a few days of BD when you know you're likely to ovulate, but don't have to worry about BBTs each morning. It's a halfway house between trying and not trying, and you'll need the extra 'brain space' for dealing with your Mum's surgery and the chemo.

Best of luck to your Mum as she goes through treatment and recovers. It's a tough path to walk, but if she's in good medical hands, then she will most likely be fine, and your support will mean the world to her. Hope all goes well xoxox

Heather - I am so very sorry to hear about your mother. My mother was diagnosed with colon cancer many years ago. I am not an only child but the youngest and the only girl so I was truly close with her and understand how it can effect you when such a close loved one is ill. I think sometimes it was harder for me sometimes (as her main caretaker) than it was for her. I think that she'd agree. She never wanted anything to stop because she was sick. She already felt like she was inconveniencing everyone. So, my advice is to keep TTC. ESPECIALLY because she want you to. She may need things to go on normally to help her feel as normal as she can.

Additionally, I've had 2 aunts that had breast cancer. Please try to remember that breast cancer is a very treatable disease nowadays, especially when caught early. I truly hope everything works out for you and your family. I will keep you and your Mom in my prayers.

Heather as soon as I read your question let me tell you what came into my head........( this happens sometimes and I have no control of it)

First of I feel your pain and I know what you are thinking but please turn the other way. Your mother might beet this cancer its in Gods hands and also your mother knows that if she passes away that she would want nothing more then to see you happy. Saying this She will not be able to pass and will stay on this earth suffering if you are not were you want to be. She wants you to continue and try to have a child. She knoes that this will make you very happy and she will watch you and that child grow either from up in Heaven or Down here. DO NOT STOP THIS MIGHT BE YOUR TIME. I know that theses words might seem alittle in sensative but please listen to your mother she knows. Some times God works in VERY misterious ways and we dont understand. That is were you have to keep the FAITH. If your mother does not make it from theis cancer you better believe that she will be up there making sure that the child that you want will be dilivered to you. I know this cause my life was going very badly about 2 years ago when my Grandmother who mostly raised me passed away. I swaer all of a sudden the doors were open all over the place. I became a loan officer and was starting to make and obsene amount of money. ( Remember I come from a very hard back ground) So when these doors opened, the lady who hired me and I didnot even go for the job it was aked of me...anyways she says please come work for this company and I promise you that you will make alot of money. Also remeber that my grandmother was a real estate agent..............so I say ok I will give it a try. I go into work the very first day at the new company and the lady that hired me her cell rang and the ring tone on it was ( brown EYED girl) this song was played on my Grandmothers cd that she left for all of us it was one of her favorite songs. I turned around and said " hey is that brown eyed girl" she said yes. I broke down in tears for I knew that was my grandmother making sure I will be ok. There wer so many other things that had happened but the biggest of all way when I went and threw my lunch away at my job in the garbage out side I saw a label on the garbage can and it said Realty World....this was the company that my grandmother owned when she was doing well. I almost passed out. Your mother will make sure that you are ok and she will be ok to one way or another. PLEASE listen to here.

wow...this is a pretty difficult situation. BUT I am sure your mother will get well, its good that it was caught early enough to be able to perform Chemo. Just keep a positive mind and pray (it helps A LOT!)

I would recommend that you just focus on your mother right now. unless you feel you can do handle the stress. we are stronger than we think sometimes. on the other hand, It would be safer to have a child now than at a later age. I think you should definitely consult with your doctor.

Good luck to your Mother with chemo and just remember to stay positive :)

I'm so sorry about your mother. I can't imagine the emotions you are going thru. I pray that all with come out good for you all.

Maybe TTC now would be a good thing. Being preg/ having a baby can bring joy to a difficult time. Maybe without her actually saying so your mom would absolutely love for you to be pregnant now. Will give you all a sense of positive distraction with she is going thru chemo and such. Thats just my suggestion. Talk with her and your hubby about it. Good luck.

Do what your instincts tell you on this one. If you think the stress of this disease and TTC would be too much, then take a little break. If you want to keep trying for a baby, then I'm sure there is nothing more in this world your mom would want to hear than "I'm pregnant!" coming out of her baby's mouth. Think on it. It's not a decision you need to come to soon. Best wishes to your family!

in my opinion. u might want to stop just 4 a while to things get cleared up with ur mother. things like this can be very stressful and u don't want to finally conceive and not be able to carry b/c of stress. if u and ur hubby make luv just let it be about the love making and not ttc. Be strong for ur mother and once she makes it through, again ONCE SHE MAKES IT THROUGH this u can start again. and who knows taking ur mind off of ttc and focusing on ur mother may bring about a blessing. So I hope this helps and take care. Beast wishes to ur mom. U all will be FINE.

I am really sorry to hear this- you must be very distressed. Hopefully your mum will be fine after the long journey ahead. I think you should continue to try if it is something you really want. I doubt that your mum would want you to put these nice plans on hold. I understand that you would be worried about whether the stress would put yuor pregnancy in danger but I have learned from my experience that tring to plan and time things like pregnancy often doesn't work out. I strongly believe that to just let things happen is the best way. Sometimes when we are upset about something and it becomes our focus having something else to concentrate on helps our overall wellbeing. Your mum would be delighted if you got pregnant and it would be something for her to focus on too when she is worrying.

I hope your mum receovers very quickly and you should try go ahead with your plans.

All the best :-)