My son is standing up for his cousins wedding. Bachelor party will cost him $800!! He doesn't want to go...

Oh my goodness, stand by your son. It shouldn't be an insult to the groom but to the wife, 4 days in Vegas with strippers.... It really isn't a good way to start of a marriage anyways... I refuse to marry a man the day after he had "dirty" strippers all over him. I wouldn't be able to walk down the aisle to my future husband, knowing the night before I was "horny" for some stripper. It's not right. I don't understand what the world is coming to; honestly! Let alone spending that much money on a bachelor party and wedding, vain, greedy, selfish. I would feel so guilty spending that much money on a wedding. How many starving children could you feed with that!

Sorry if I offended anyone, just my opinion and I stand by it!

4 day trip for a bachelor get away? Wish I had to time to run off and do that. Would your son even be able to get off work to go?

I don't; think it would be an insult to the groom, just explain that he can not afford to go. These guys should be friends if they do not understand this then to H*L* with them. I know the 3 wedding I have been in,(one I was best man) we did nothing that elaborate... The most fun was my cousin's and all we did was go to a few bars then go to the cabin and play cards and drink , well until the bride's friends showed up but that is another story that I will not go into

Yeah, I agree with you. I would think a lot of people don't have that amount of money available to put into someone else's wedding. Also, your son not wanting to spend $ and time at strip clubs sounds like he has respectable morals, at least, to me. I'd agree that he should just tell the groom that he doesn't have that $ to give. I guess that puts the ball in the groom's court as to whether or not he still wants him to be in the wedding party. After all, just because they are willing to spend a lot on the wedding, doesn't mean that everyone else is.

Best Wishes!

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That's expensive for an individual. Does that include travel to Vegas? I don't imagine that it does. If he doesn't want to spend the money, he has every right to decline. Talking to the groom sounds reasonable. Do the other guys feel this is a financial burden? If so, they should let the best man know as a group that it's too expensive.

Personally I always found it to be in bad taste when grooms/brides had vaction bachelor/bacherolette parties and did not pay for their wedding party. Have your son explain that all though he would love to go, he does not have the money right now. There will be no, nhurt feelings, people understand when you do not have an extra $800 to blow.

i don't think he has to go. my opinio0n is that if you want an extravagant vacation type bachelor party that's fine but you need to cover the cost for your wedding party. i think it's too much to ask the average person to do. most people have a hard time getting off from work and then they lose pay and most people don't have money just laying around.

i think he should just talk to the groom and tell him sorry but he can't afford it, maybe tell him he'll take him out for drinks before the wedding. he sorry but it's just not possilbe,

my soon to be brother in law is doing soething similar and it really bothers me, my husband told them he wouldn't be able to go. we are still paying for our wedding, and trying to pay off bills so that we can buy a house, so it's not in our budget. not to mention that my husband works 6 days a week and if he got that time off he would rather spend it with me.

In my mind, the people who attend each pay their own way and chip in for the groom. The people who don't attend don't pay anything, unless they WANT to.

I'm sure some people will be miffed that your son doesn't attend. Then again, really, strips clubs for 4 days? What a pathetic excuse for a 'party' that is.

Your son is old enough to make his own decisions and if he doesn't want to go, than he has no obligation to go. He can give the best man some money to cover his portion of the estimated cost of the groom and that's it. He shouldn't be pressured into going if he doesn't want to. Kudos to him for not giving in to the pressure.

I do hope you will support your son's calling his cousin right tonight and declining. That is absolutely ridiculous and a waste of so much money. I do hope he can say with confidence " Im sorry but I cannot afford to be in the wedding and I wanted to let you know now so you can find someone else. Thanks for thinking of me. Good Bye' and thats it. And I hope you and he will not be caring or worried about what he will think. He obviously isnt caring about what YOU think