i went to a party last night and met a bunch of guys...?

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this was the first time i felt comfortable and confident enough to be myself and meet new people and i had a blast. the only problem is, i met a couple of guys who keep texting me and asking me to go out and stuff, and im really not interested in them as anything more than friends. i feel guilty, like maybe i led them on last night, but i really don't think i did anything that would make them think im interested -- all i did was have some regular conversations with them. i want to remain friendly with all of them, but they dont seem to understand that that's all i want. how can i make it clearer without being rude?

thinker · Accepted Answer

just stay honest all the time. giving off false hopes just to keep friends will get you in serious trouble babe so make sure no matter what, they always know that you are only mates..nothing else! if they cant accept it, seriously girl, you dont want them as friends, they will crush your new found confidence quicker than anything!
your sweet, keep your head up!
xx

stardust_805 · Answer

Well, first of all did you tell them exactly that you are not interested? I ask you this because sometimes we think we do say something clearly but really we don't. I say you go with honesty. I would tell them I am really flattered that you are interested but I am not looking to date anyone at the moment. I would like to be friends. See how that goes and if that does not work you might have to be brutally honest. Don't feel bad all you are doing is telling them the truth. Why should you feel bad for telling the truth? I say go with Honesty. Hope this work.

out surfing · Answer

okay well first of all its not ur fault that they keep asking u out. it was a party and u went there to party and have fun. thoes guys prolly really liked ur personality and they thought u wer cute and stuff dat y their asking u out. there is nothing els to do but just talk to them and tell them that all u want is a regulare frend. if they keep asking u then thoes kinda ppl need u to be rude with themso that they can get it threw there heads. [=

Curiously · Answer

Give them the famous "Lets be Friends" Speech...Its OK to go out with friends for a cup of coffee and stuff...Make it a group thing, with some other girlfriends so they don't have a chance to get frisky or something else...good luck

Joey · Answer

just tell them how you feel. if they wont talk to you anymore because you dont want to go out with them then they are not real friends. unfortunately most guys go to parties trying to pick up girls for sex. i dont think you were leading them on because everyone has fun at parties! they are probably desperate guys who are obsessed with you after having one conversation with you. dont feel guilty.

bluedevil1642 · Answer

Just be straight with them. Tell them exactly what you told us: You didn't mean to lead anyone on, but you're just looking for friends right now.

tucker · Answer

I guys going to try.  Once they realize there's no chance, theyll move on to someone else.Be firm!

m.rinshad · Answer

Say them that u will be a gud frnd fr them not more than that they should expect frm u.

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