My wife of 33 years left me for another man. I think that suicide is the only way out. And will do it.?

hold your head up high honey, the best way to get even, is to be even more successful...I am sorry because what you are going thru right now, is nothing less than feeling like a death in the family..I am so sorry....the best way to deal with it tho, don't drop your guard...she'll be back begging when the t**** blossom and her find out that all the excitement of their affair burns out, and she realizes just what she did...lose weight, work out....get your house in order, find things to do...remember how she dumped you and threw you away...it hurts terribly at first, but rise up and be strong...God Bless honey, I feel for you so much...but don't kill yourself,...you won't be around when she comes begging back.. I know that sounds cruel,...but that's usually the way it works...

You are asking for hope, not suicide.

While not everyone has walked in your shoes, some of us have been close.

Had I have left my husband the day I found out he was cheating on me, I would not have my terrific 3 year old son now. He is my upside to an awfull and terrible experience with my husband.

And it was NEVER MY FAULT for what HE DID. Just like it is not your fault for what she is doing.

Just remember, even thought it seems hard to do right now, it does get better.

I pray you will see that time truley does heal, while maybe slighty scared, all wounds.

YOU DO THIS DUDE SHE WILL WIN!! AND WILL MAKE HER EVEN MORE HAPPY, BECAUSE YOU WILL BE OUT OF THE WAY FOREVER! OUT OF SITE, OUT OF MIND! AND ILL SAY THIS, YOU DO THIS YOUR NOT GIVING THE ONES WHO REALLY LOVE YOU A CHANCE THAT THEY ALL DESERVE TO TALK TO YOU, GO TO A RELATIVES HOUSE, OR GO DO THINGS YOU ALWAYS WANTED TO DO WHILE YOU WAS WITH HER, AND YOU COULDN'T OR WOULDN'T BECAUSE SHE WAS IN THE WAY, OR WOULDN'T HAVE DARED TO LET YOU DO IT! AND GO TO YOUR LOCAL MEETINGS WHERE THEY HAVE THE SUICIDE MEETINGS, WHERE THE FAMILY'S OF LOVED ONES THAT HAS HAD SOMEONE KILL THEMSELVES AND SEE THE HURT AND PAIN THAT IT CAUSED, AND SUICIDE WILL NEVER ENTER YOUR MIND AGAIN MAN, YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN TO BE DONE WRONG AND THANK GOD SHE DIDN'T KEEP STICKING AROUND MAKING YOUR LIFE A LIVING H$$$...AND CHEATING BEHIND YOUR BACK!! AND YOU HAD A LIFE BEFORE HER AND DIDN'T NEED ANYONE, WHAT MAKES YOU THINK YOU GOTTA HAVE ANYONE NOW? YOU AS A GROWN MAN, WHO HAS GOT OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS WHO LOVES YOU AND DESERVE A CHANCE TO TALK TO YOU ABOUT THIS! HAVE YOU EVER HEARD A 12 YEAR OLD GIRL SAY IN A GROUP OF PEOPLE AT A CHURCH SERVICE SAY >THAT HE DOESN'T EVEN KNOW HOW MUCH I LOVED HIM? AND HIS 16 YEAR OLD SON SAY THAT HE HAD LOOKED FORWARD TO THE DAY HE COULD LET HIS DAD TEACH HIM TO DRIVE, AND A MONTH BEFORE HIS BIRTHDAY HIS DAD KILLED HIMSELF, DO YOU REALIZE THAT PAIN A SUICIDE CAUSES TO OTHERS? I KNOW YOU THINK YOU HAVE LOST YOUR WORLD, AND ALL THE ABOVE MAN, BUT YOU NEED HELP, AND THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH ASKING FOR HELP OR SEEKING HELP AT ALL! DON'T DO IT PLZ MAN!! DID YOU KNOW, IF YOU GUYS ARE STILL MARRIED SHE WILL ONLY GET ALL YOUR BELONGINGS, NO MATTER WHO YOU WANT TO HAVE IT MAN ,AND SHE WILL MOVE HER NEW MAN RIGHT IN AND LET HIM SLEEP IN YOUR BED, I AM SAYING I HAVE SEEN THIS BEFORE AND IT WILL HAPPEN AGAIN! BUT YOU AS A GROWN MAN DON'T NEED ANYONE TO VALIDATE YOU AS A HUMAN BEING ,OR TO COMPLETE YOU AS A MAN, OR EVEN TO MAKE YOU A BETTER PERSON! SHE WILL SEE THAT THIS IS ONLY THE GREENER GRASS AND IT WILL SOON DIE OUT.. AND SHE WILL COME CRAWLING BACK, AND I HOPE YOU LET HER SUFFER A LIL BIT BEFORE SAYING OH YEA PLZ COME HOME! BUT ALL IN ALL DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU MAN, YOU DESERVER BETTER THAN SUICIDE, THAT IS THE WORDS OF A COWARD, AND YOUR NOT THAT, YOU WAS MARRIED FOR HOW LOG LOL? COME ON YOU SHOULD HAVE THE SKIN OF A SOLDIER! STAND UP BE STRONG AND KNOW THERE ARE OTHERS THAT DO CARE ABOUT YOU AS ANOTHER HUMAN, I DO AND DON'T EVEN KNOW YOU MAN.... I COULDN'T IMAGINE THE PAIN THAT YOUR FAMILY WILL OR WOULD FEEL IF YOU DID KILL YOURSELF!!PLEASE DO WHAT IS RIGHT AN SEEK COUNSELING!! ITS OK PEOPLE WILL THINK MORE HIGHLY OF YOU FOR THAT THAN IF YOU DIDNT!

Do not let your wife affect your life. A woman of that kind is not worth your love. Just forgive and forget, move on and look at the bright side of your life. There are many other women in the world that might be much better than her.

Anyway, there are many solutions to a problem. Suicide is one, but it is a bad one. One good solution might be that you go visit her, wish her good luck and just pretend that nothing has happened. If you want to, you can even ask her to be your friend!

Good luck!

I had a similar expierence, and i too felt that way. But suiside again is never the answer. Think of all the other people that love you..and somewhere in her spineless soul she loves u, and wouldn't want her choices to hurt u that bad. Try to take a deep breath, and see the eventually the pain will subside. maybe not entirely, but there are so many wonderful things to live for..i'm sorry for ur pain...

If you commit suicide, you show her that she still has power over you inspite of her betrayal. You aren't going to win the power struggle by ending it. Your life is far more valuable to all those who are a loyal part of your life.

Get into counseling immediately to help you work through this. You are strong, you can get beyond this. Others have faced similar situations and gone on to greater happiness.

I am sorry you are going through this.

Don't sucicde yourself because that dosn't solve anything. The only way to solve this problem is if you move on. If she dosn't like you anymore, then thats her lost! Don't worry about it! There are woman out there that are better than her! Stay positive. Don't let your wife win on this one. You win.

hello friend , i know things are really tough at the moment and you will have so many bad thoughts but i can really promise you things will get so much better for you , there is so much to life and everybody else that loves you and needs you will help you get through this , speak to ya best friends and family tell them how you are feeling and see how hurt and upset they would feel , honestly you might not think this but this will be the start of a new and exciting life ..

you are obviously a very loyal and genuine man.

The hurt you feel is very natural and it will take time for you to start thinking and feeling so betrayed. Please seek out the help you need. Just by talking to someone will help with the healing. Taking your own life will only hurt more innocent people. I really feel for you and hope you get the help you need.

Man up and commit to getting over it. Sh*t happens but we can't go around threatening to kill ourselves when it does. Give yourself some time to grieve, find someone you can talk to. See a doctor if you need to go on antidepressents. Pray. Be around your friends all the time. Soon you will find another woman and forget all about your stupid exwife.