Neil L

Hi, I have a 14 year old son, the youngest of my other grown up children. I sent him to a Wilderness program followed by a therapeutic school both in Utah for a year. Both were extremely expensive but that didn't matter until I ran out of money. He had been doing all sorts of drugs and seems to have learning disabilities like ADD.

Upon return to home, I enrolled him in regular school but he started skipping school so I bought an 8th grade computerized curriculum which he now refuses to use.

I've been giving him ever increasing allowance and am now suspicious as to how that is being used and now question him as to the specific need.

In short, he's threatening to move out and refuses to do the computerized lessons. I'm 65 and won't put up with his BS but, frankly, don't know what to do.... I love him so much but know that he's following the wrong road. He doesn't realize that he lives in luxury here at home.....He's also a wantabe gang banger.

I just don't know what my next step should be and would appreciate suggestions. I also hope that none of you have to go through this.

My wife of 33 years left me fro another man. I't's destroyed my whole world..