single mom having behavior probs with 12 yr old son?

Did he ever have help with his grief when those things happened two years ago? If not he could be relapsing into the state he was in previously. Consider therapy for his grief.

Wow, you're right everything that has been going on in his life is part of this. But also, he's hitting puberty, which is causing these changes as well. Is it possible for him to spend time with his father? If not, find a male role model (I don't think a new boyfriend would help lol....but try an uncle). Make sure that you understand he needs his space and ask if there's anything you can do to fix your relationship, even if it is just backing off for a while. Now as for the behavior issues, he is 12, not 18, so if you don't want him associating with the other boy, don't let him. See if he wants to sign up for a sport or something to get him involved in something with a new crowd. Some family counseling might help as well!

I am so sorry for all that you are going through !! I know were you are at all to personally . My son is turning 12 this year and three years ago he lost his grandfather whom he absolutely adored and then exactly 1 year 1 month and 1 day from his grandfathers death his dad was taken from him in an ATV accident. He has definitely gone through a lot of changes since then and I to am not really sure what to do for him at times. I did enter him into an anger management program for children that has been wonderful for him . He also has bereavement counseling in school 2 times a week as well as regular counseling. It breaks my heart on a daily basis to see my son in so much pain and not know what to do with it yet . (I am even crying as I write this ! ) It is very hard but I struggle through it. I give him all the love I have just hoping that it will be enough !! We can never replace what they have lost . My son is a great kid that everyone loves also just like yours and I tell myself he is angry towards me not because he is really angry at me but because I am who he feels the most comfortable with to release the anger that he has !! But I do highly recommend the counseling it has helped in so many ways !!! It is not 100 % but it helps . good luck and I wish you and your son the best !!!

Young kids really don't know how to handle many emotions such as loss. Having a father walk out and losing a loved one can be a heart wrenching and confusing situation for even the most emotionally sound adult.

If he is unwilling to talk to you about what is going on in his head, or can't figure out why he is so angry, please consider getting him into counsellings to deal with the host of emotions he is no doubt feeling.

It may also do him some good to get involved with a program like big brothers, so he will have a strong male role model in his life to talk to. He is going to be going through a lot of changes pretty soon, if he already hasn't and this is not going to be something he wants to talk to mom about.

I'm sure you are completely correct that all of your son's behavior is related to the divorce and the death of his grandmother. He's angry about losing two people he loves, and he's taking out his anger on you.

In this case, I'm not sure punishment is the answer to the problem. He's hurting inside, and it's only going to make him hurt more. It sounds like some counseling would really benefit him at the moment, and it might even be helpful if both of you could go together. You've had to cope with some big loss here yourself, and it couldn't hurt to talk to someone about dealing with it.

Talk to a counselor in or out of school. Is it about the time that the divorce or the loss of your mother 2 years ago? Has one of his friends parents got a divorce? He might be rebelling because of the memories that have been brought up.

He is doing the teenage thing. Try and be friends with him.. I know this sounds hard but meet him half way. It worked for my mum with my brother. Try and put him in your shoes.. talk 2 him about how it makes you feel and explain that you are hurting. You are his mum, he respects you most whether he is going to tell you or not! This phase is totally normal for teenagers. Try and discourage this friend.. if he is sensible he will work this out for himself anyway. Maybe a part time job to keep him off the streets or a sporting activity?

Good luck and Im very sorry for your loss

he's just rebelling, I went through the same thing. He will grow out of it. Try to get him in to a church group for kids his age, and you might benefit to from some other mothers. RGo to library read books on behavioril disdorders. Get support. If you're a beliver read the bible and claim God's promises over your child everyday, rebuke the enemy. A good verse is :train up a child in the way they should go and when they are old they will not depart." Good luck and God Bless

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It sounds like maybe you and your son need counselling to help deal with the losses and huge changes in life you've had to deal with. You could try it separately with maybe a few sessions together. In the meantime, maybe try talking to your son, explaining how you feel about his behaviour and recent events, and maybe he might talk to you a little about it too. But definately try the counselling, maybe even before that. You could also maybe plan for something nice for the two of you..a holiday or something you think both of you would enjoy and it would something to plan for and look forward to. Best of luck:)

Have you considered counseling for your son? He is only 12 years old so he should not be decisions for himself. Remember that you are the parent, not him. Maybe you have let him get away with smaller things before because you felt guilty about your divorce and your mother dying. You probably felt sorry for him and thought you were doing the right thing. Get control back. Don't let your son rule you.