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Is misogyny or "man bashing" more prevalent in the gay community?

This is, in no way, meant to be offensive. I am not homophobic in any way that I am aware of. I have (and love) my gay friends.

However, I have always wondered about something. It seems as if some drag queens, as well as some particularly flamboyant gay men, dislike women. Let me explain; they portray their feminine personas (or simulate/model their female-like personalities) in a way that makes me think they dislike women; they portray women as catty, shallow, backbiting, materialistic, agressive, rude, etc. In seeing this, it occurs to me that if they are emulating/copying what they believe to be womanly or feminine traits, then they must dislike women since they seem to accentuate the most negative stereotypes.

The same goes for some particularly masculine lesbians. They emulate the more negative stereotypes of men---machismo, laziness, agressiveness, etc. Making me think they dislike men, because look at the traits they choose to adopt.

Anyone have any thoughts?

Update:

And please, I am truly only curious about this---there is no offense meant at all.

Thanks to those who take the time to answer politely and thoughtfully.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    You seem to be talking more about stereotyping then misogyny. I don't think stereotyping is more common in the queer community. Many individuals stereotype negatively, regardless of their orientation.

    As for hating the opposite sex---that too does not stand out as unique to gay people. Gay, straight, whatever, there's plenty of people who stereotype and hate others.

  • 1 decade ago

    Going solely by my own experience with the kind of gay guy you're talking about... they're not acting that way because they're trying to bash or even be like women. They're acting that way because they (the guys) ARE catty, shallow, backbiting, etc. It's usually not a separate persona that they put on for certain occasions, they are like that all the time.

    If you're convinced that this type of personality is entirely an act, then consider that it isn't women they're emulating, but other flamboyantly gay men. They are trying to fit in with THEIR culture, not yours. Consider also that most of the extremely flamboyant gay men I know love me, and surround themselves with female friends. That doesn't strike me as the way someone who hates women would behave.

  • 1 decade ago

    Calliope,

    no offense meant to you or anyone, however what you are saying is more transphobic than you may realize...many TG and/or TS folks (in and out of denial and hiding) express themselves in different ways at different times...personally it does offend me too when some queens over play at expressing their own femininity and/or when bull dykes over play in misogynistic ways expressing their own masculinity...while respectively both claim and/or acquiesce to being homosexual and internalizing their own transphobia and fear of rejection from the gay and lesbian circles should they indeed feel the need to transition...

    sorry if this offends...however in many organizational ways and indeed on the 'street' level it is very much the truth in the LGBTQ...too many times when a transsexual does or even starts to transition, circles they have traveled or survived in for years are all too often closed to them by the will of their once supposed friends.

    Source(s): MMe...43yrs of Life...womb to NOW...spirit, mind & soul... ....transitioned mtf ts....One & Humane Human Being....
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Hello.

    Really in the Gay community for feminine guys is about getting attention, so they bring out the most obnoxious personalities. The does not mean they are trying to adapt womens worst traits or personalities, it is just attention and most of the time insecurity. Furthermore, sometimes, and not always, gay or lesbian people just want to fit in, or fit in, in certain roles. Everyone has the same spirit, people just choose roles that may or may not work for them... Hope tis helps.

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  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    "basically approximately 5% to 7% of male adults and youthful human beings contained in the U. S. % out themselves as MSM" Many men are MSM contained in the closet. maximum of them deny they're, human beings lie you be responsive to. AIDS is accepted in gay men reason we are better than 7% of male inhabitants.

  • 1 decade ago

    Where is the fear and loathing (misandry) of straight men? I have looked but am yet to find it.

  • 1 decade ago

    As Ashleigh says it is MISANDRY. And I am very heterophobic !

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