9/10 year old still wetting bed?!?

i cant believe some of the answers you are getting,if she tries to hide her under ware then obviously she is ashamed of her lack of control , Her laughing is just a cover up for her frustration.

I have a 20 year old who wet the bed until she was 10 she has a hereditary condition where her bladder didn't mature fast enough (something like that)and she also was a super sound sleeper , so the nerves in the bladder that tell us its full werent signaling the brain on time so even when she was awake she wasnt aware of how bad she needed to go untill it was allmost too late and sometimes was too late.

i can see how you could think it is laziness i sure did at times but if you think about it even the laziest person in the world would not purposly humiliate them selves in that way .

first off she should see a doctor, then her parents should watch her fluid intake befor bed and about an hour after she is asleep wake her and take her to the bathroom i know its a hassel but , in this way you are helping her get some form of control of her problem .

dont punish her you will only give her massive head trips she will eventually grow out of it i promise

Definitely could be a sign of something wrong. Is this something that just started or has it been continuing for years? Are there developmental or cognitive delays in other areas? I can think of a number of things that can cause a child to wet/poop the bed at this age with laziness being at the very bottom of the list. Please refer to link for more information. Urge your friend to seek a doctor and rule out other causes before calling the child "lazy". Yelling or grounding a child is not an effective way to deal this especially if the child can't help it. Think about the long term effects. Good luck!

8 o'clock is still too late for her to be drinking. But then again I'm not sure what time you're putting her to sleep. A couple hours before bed is when drinking should stop. Right before bed like as you're walking her to bed make her use the bathroom. Even if she says she doesn't have to, make her go. Don't listen to these others saying you can't do anything about it because you can. Also she may be cold at night causing her to pee, honestly my brother would pee every night no matter what we did, someone suggested tucking him in better and putting long sleeve pajamas and pants on him and wala no more peeing in bed. Good luck.

At first I thought she may need to see a doctor but if she is doing it while she is awake that's a different story all together. She is either being lazy or trying to get attention. Are there any consequences for the wetting and pooping? Yelling will not help the issue but she needs to understand wetting or pooping her pants while she is wide awake will not be tolerated. She is old enough to know better. Good luck with this one!!!

My son has the pooing his pants issue ever since his baby brothercame into the piture!! she is wanting attention from parents or whoever is there at the time!! and is willing to pee/poo her pants even if it gets her bad attention!! She will grow out of it!! peeing the bed may not be on purpose, i had this problem when i was akid and my mother would think it was cause i was lazy but it wasn't i really didn't know i was doing it while i was sleeping. She took me to the doctors and it seemed that my bladder didn't grow as fast as the rest of me, and i was prone to bladder infections because of it... A cousin of mine had the same problem with wetting the bed as a kid, her mother took her to the chiropractor and after he cracked her back she never wet the bed again... I dunno why but thats how it worked!! Hope i helped

Time to start a star chart. She's old enough to where she can be told if she goes a week without peeing, they can do whatever it is she likes to do after that week is up. If she messes up, no doing anything for another week. No more grounding or anything like that. After a couple successful weeks, stretch it to a month. By then the problem should be licked.

The child may have a medical problem. It might be something like nocturnal enuresis a problem that causes them to pee involuntarily at night. It may be her antidiuretic hormone (ADH) is imbalance, a bladder problem, or another dozen reasons. Since she's already 9/10 have her seen by a doctor. This not a reason to ground her since it's probably not her fault either.

Tell her to carefully watch her dreams when asleep. If she envisions dreams involving water (rain or beach / ocean), that's the cue to wake up and go to the bathroom.

However, at this age---this MAY be a sign of some degree of sexual abuse by either a male or female person close to her. Only a trained social worker or therapist can really know for sure; it's not our job to make such a determination.

First of all, they shouldn't be punishing her for this behavior, she is probably laughing because she is mortified and embarrased. This happens to some children, my brother is 13 and he still wets the bed. He is now on a medication which helps him control it, but still has to cut back on drinks a few hours before bedtime. Decrease liquid before bed time and take her to a doctor! What kind of parents would yell and ground their child for something that they cannot control??!!

I think it would be time to bring in the kid shrink. this is an issue and they aren't helpping it out by yelling. Sounds like she's doing it for any kind of attention she can get from the parents. maybe they need to stop being so about themselves and take more intrest in the child and maybe the problem will stop when she sees she can get good attention not just negative