What can you tell someone who's about to die...?

Happy trip!

This is a difficult question for me to answer b/c you

didn't tell me @ what level of emotional attachment

you are to this person.

You can start by quoting Woody Allen and tell him

you are not afraid of dying, as long as you don't

have to be there when it happens. Get him to laugh.

You can help him to accept death by being there for

him and comfort him with your love and friendship.

I can tell you what prayers you can both recite, but

since you didn't tell me about his religous faith, I

am at a loss.

The reason he's afraid of dying is b/c he hasn't made

peace with himself and hasn't setteled all personal

accounts.Help him do that. Tell him all is forgiven and

that whatever he accomplished in his life, will be re-

membered by those who knew and loved him. Tell

him how glad you are to have met and known him,

and that he made a difference in your life.

Tell him that he must accept his fate and that you want

him to be brave about it. You want and need for him

to set an example for others. Tell him that if he doesn't

come to terms with his conscousness, he will never

acomplish the serenity he so much desires. His body

will die, but his spirit and soul will remain on this earth

as a ghost, forever searching for the answers he

he could've found when he was alive. There will be no

eternal peace, just eternal seaching. I assure you, he

will be more afraid of that than just dying. Be tactfull

and compassionate.

Help him let go!!!

Try and understand his exact fear of the dying process. He'll never stop being afraid and that's the cold reality of the situation, but you can try and somewhat assuage the fears.

I had a friend who was only 11 and dying from cancer. I remember we sat with him on his bed and just talked, not about death but afterwards. He was a christian and although not all of us were, we talked and acted as though we really believed in heaven. It was the only thing we could do at the time.

It's tough, and it's really going to hurt, but you'll be fine.

The best thing you can say is "Tell me how you are feeling, talk to me and I will listen and be there for you".

You cannot ever say anything that will stop someone being afraid, but knowing someone is with you, and cares enough to be there makes most people feel braver.

Holding someone's hand and listening to them tell you what they think and feel will help more than you can know.

Best wishes :-)

he will find peace in his own time. it's like being scared if the dark. when someone tells you that it's going to be fine, you don't really believe it until you decide for yourself that it will be fine. the dying person will have to accept death by himself. as for the people surrounding him, make him comfortable, give him enough assurance but don't force him or he'll get scared even more. what to tell him? the things you never told him...

well i am not afraid. i am sure there is what we say life after death. if you tell this person when you depart this world just remember to go towards the light. its simple and it will help him be where he watns to be. that i know this is because a person was flat lined 3 times and he went to the light and he found out what is ont he other side. its your God that is there you see on ly light but you have such a feeling of peace and tranquility its unreal. he told me that you just dont' want ot do nothing else. and i also know when you are having ghosts and tuff they have not gotten to the light and they are not happy souls yet. its not bad as god will be there waiting for you and peace take care. pray it helps also. take cae.

Being one with the Lord will ease a lot of fear. God is always by our sides even in the valley of the shadow of death..pray with him and for him. Tell him there will be no pain were he's going. That's a hard one, sorry to hear your friend is passing.

I have had a number of friends who were dying and when I sat with them and held their hands I just let them talk and lead the conversation where they needed to go. Once they saw that I was comfortable with letting them talk about whatever they needed to they were very happy that they could talk about death and talk about what they were feeling. Mostly they need to say what they feel--they are the ones who are going through something that we can imagine but have not yet experienced. We just need to show them our love and compassion.

I feel that it is important to let him know you are there for him.instead of talking about dying,you should talk about all the fun and crazy things you two did together and all the thing you wish y'all could do.make his last days memorable full of laughter,that is the best gift you could give to someone you Love.

Read the Gospel of John to him, and explain how God sent Jesus Christ as a blood sacrifice for the forgiveness of his sins, and rose again three days later to prove that we are immortal in God. Ask him if he believes that his sins are forgiven by that sacrifice, and assure him of God's promise that all who believe will go to HIM.

Answerers, like it or not, it's the only Way to the Father. Everything else will make everybody feel good, but do NOTHING to save his soul.

I Love You

Be with him all the time and comfort him

Make him the most important person in the world!