If a man is in "love" with two women - which is he more likely to choose?

If you are 29, independent, and attractive why are you putting up with his b.s?

What woman wants to be chosen based on her ability to reproduce? That never works out well for the woman because she gets used for reproduction and then promptly replaced by the older/younger woman/man.

The smartest thing for you to do is just move on-don't give him the power to choose. Instead choose to respect yourself enough to know that you deserve someone who KNOWS that you are the one he wants to be with. If what you want is a monogamous relationship then you must first be sure the other person wants to be with only you, which is clearly not the case in your situation. jmho

Awww this is an awful situation for both of you! i think it is a mean and unsensitive that he is choosing and picking between you. Seeing as you both live in a different country it may be a bit hard to choose because it doesnt seem that you can spend quality time with each other etc. also it seems that he is only attracted to the other woman because of her fame. Tbh loving 2 ppl is not a good idea and shows that he is probly not madly in love with either of you! if you love someone, you love them a lot and would not even consider 4 a second someone else . . .

Here is the thing.. If you two were truly soul mates there would be no other woman in the picture..PERIOD. I am not trying to take away the confusion he may be having, but let me clear it up for you the best I can.. My husband left his family his friends and his country to be with me, and when he got here he had to deal with my family who referred to him as 'boy toy'

PLUS.. I was on birth control which made me a bit of a loose cannon and numbed all my feelings for him until he realized their effect 9 months later.. The first year was pure hell for him, but b/c we connected and shared such an intimate love he put up with all of that, and now my family loves him, I am no longer "crazy" and we are happier than anyone could ever imagine. THAT is true love.. not a man who isn't sure who he should choose.

you are far too beautiful and young to waste your time on this indecision! make your mark and give him the boot.. Pray to find your true soul mate, and someday you, too will meet your love. I didn't tell you that story to make you feel bad, but rather to give you an example of what true love really acts like!

I truly wish you the best!

In your situation I would say he is telling them the same story that he is telling you. Stop taking his calls and move on. He probably has many other women than you know about. This is the story that he tells to string everyone along without committing to anyone.

He is playing all of you. If you confront him about what I just said he will tell you that he picked you and the other woman is nothing anymore. Trust me this will be his reaction...this will be a complete lie too.

Otherwise it will likely be the most physically attractive one that he "keeps", but with this guy it is not the case because he does not intend to chose anyone.

to start off it basically depends on what country you 3 are in, his country might allow marrage to more then one person, in countries like that a man usually feels that there are many women that is his soal mate.

however here in america I want only one woman in my life age and money don't matter to me, so honestly if I was him I would be choosing you out of the two. 1 your more attractive. 2. you are independent, 3. I'm sure your really good in bed. 4. you seem to actually care about other people, it don't matter how old a celebrity is they never care about other people except themselfs.

so he should choose you.

I doubt he will marry any of you. In the unlikely event that he does he will definitely cheat with the other person. I as a man will not tell woman that there is two of them and I want to pick one. That is the sort of thing you do at the flee market. When a man finds love he is totally consumed by it. There is no time to think of another party. Hope this helps.

Call me old fashioned but I believe you have to actually live in the same country as someone in order to fall in love with them. Spending time, going on dates, having dinner, seeing movies, getting into arguments, meeting family and friends....

Face it, he will do what he wants to do. You could give him an ultimatum, but be prepared if he drops you. He sounds like he is afraid to commit. I think that a year for him to declare his intentions is plenty. You might want to consider just moving on.

Ahh. Interresting situation. A long time ago, men were able to have many wives and actually loved them all. Why can't he be with both of you? Think about it. More money combined. More love. He would never need to stray.

Why buy the milk when he gets it free, wise up sweetie your falling for one of the oldest crap in the book, have some respect for yourself and move on. You should never belittle yourself for that kind of attention. Are your homely, stupid and nasty looking that you are so desperate? get out there now.