Wedding help regarding Children!?

If things are going to be the same this time around. I would send a congrats card and not go. If they ask why. I would say I had to draw the line some where.

But this is just me and what I would do, you will have to decide what you are willing to put up with.

Good Luck

Why do people think it's ok to bring children to a wedding? I can see if your brother or sister was getting married and it was a next of kin wedding. If this is your cousin... what is your problem? Do you understand what a hassle children can be at a wedding? Instead of inviting an adult that may mean a lot to the couple, your child is in their place. Who watches your child when you are drinking and dancing? Don't you think you're being selfish?

Im sure other couples children weren't invited... the other couples were rude and brought their children.

I'd like a no child wedding. My Aunt is very upset my cousin's can not bring their children. My cousin's threatened not to come. This so turns me off. They were told if they felt the need to not attend, I would miss their presence at my wedding. My reasons for not having children are 1. My cousin's children do not behave well. 2. I have a small guest list. 3. They expect my brother to watch the children.

I would go to the wedding and have a nice time with my husband. You don't have to watch your kids for the evening.. I would think you'd like some time to yourself. Don't say anything even if it upsets you... It's trashy. It's their wedding, you're a GUEST.

You should be the bigger person here. I agree with other answers that it's probably not YOUR kids. The bride(s) probably didn't want any children at the wedding. Those guests who brought their kids probably annoyed the bride, but she was too nice or too busy to say anything.

I would suggest commiserating with the bride, and make amends with the family yourself. You could say something like, "Yes, of course we'll leave the children at home. I just hope everyone does the same... I know in the past there have been children at our family weddings, and those people must have made it very difficult for you! If you need help encouraging people to leave their kids at home, call me. I can do some of the dirty work for you." This way, YOU look like the understanding, respectful one. If, for any reason, these cousins didn't invite your children on purpose, they will feel two things: respect for you, and shame for themselves for not being nicer to your kids. The wounds will heal, because they'll see you're a good person, and they'll have a guilt trip about mistreating your children.

Lastly, I don't mean to be rude, but you might want to think about why your children may not have been invited. I'm sure you have lovely children, but perhaps there's another problem. Do they get along with other children in the family? Do they have a tendency to pull pranks? Are they on strict diets that would make it difficult for a caterer? Are they very strong willed or highly sensitive? You might need to do a little bit of soul searching. Perhaps, even though they're good kids, your cousins think they are a "handful." Talk to your children, too. There may be something simple you can do to help your children get along with your family better.

If I were you, I would go without my kids. If the couple wants the wedding to be for adults only, then this should be respected. If other people bring their children and disregard the couple's preference, then they are just showing their lack of concern for the couple's wishes. So that your kids won't feel slighted, I would make sure they will have fun wherever they are. Maybe get a babysitter they like, rent some movies they will enjoy, and order them a pizza or something. Honestly, kids don't usually enjoy weddings very much anyway.

I'm a bit confused, is this another cousin of your husband? If you don't feel comfortable about going then don't go. If you do go and the same thing happens, where other children are invited, it's just going bring up the same feelings and you'll be bothered by it.

All in all. It's more important to have it all out in the open then trying to avoid the situation by not going. But we all know which is easiest.

Weddings Are Personal and ,

Now it seems to be a trend , more than a slight to the children,

so be charming and let it go and attend by all means. if you had no invites then it becomes a problem, don't even try to find out why or" patch"up that which is not broken...

I would suggest just being respectful of their wishes. It may hurt your feelings that other people are bringing their children but also consider...those other people are being disrespectful of the bride and groom and the bride and groom may be very upset with this and could very well appreciate that you have shown them this respect. No matter what, have a great time and wish the newlyweds well.

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Only rsvp if you want to share the day with them and not be angry if your kids can't go. Some people just need to do cuts if someone brings there kids unexpectedly at least it wasnt you who ruined there day.

Ask them maybe the other families didn't ask just assumed the children were invited.