No baby shower?

Yes, I think that the general rule is that you are only supposed to have a baby shower for the first kid because you are just getting started. I think sending out invitations for any babies after the first irritates friends and families because they just bought you something for hte last baby. Of course, most people who visit in the hospital will be bringing outfits and such, but having another baby shower is unnecessary and slightly rude.

Don't you have your car seat/stroller/highchair/pack n play and all your presents from the first two baby showers??

Think of it this way, would you like it if someone got divorce and remarried again and wanted another shower? What did they do with all the presents everyone got him/her the first time.

So basically, I think it is very rude and irritating. Sorry this is just my opinion, but I know many others who feel this way.

Baby shower for a first baby is meant to outfit Mommy with everything she needs (car seat, crib, stroller, high chair). And first time parents use the gifts/money to be "ready" for baby. Second baby will "SOMETIMES" warrant a shower, if for a different gender, and mommy needs help gathering wardrobe for the new child of opposite gender.

But a baby shower for a THIRD child, is really not very socailly acceptable. Having a lunchoen/open-house to celebrate the arrival after-the-fact is sweet. But to think that friends and family are obligated to purchase and supply baby stuff for EVERY baby that you have, is really presumptuous. I mean honestly....after having 2 kids already, you should have what you need. Don't e-mail your registry out to people. VERY presumptuous.

No not at all if you want to have a baby shower but dont know how to do it your self do somthing a little differnt and fun this time like you and daddy through a co-ed party/ bbq invite everyone to come celebrate the newest addition of your family by joining you at a park or your house for a bbq and then in the invatations put the little cards that say where you are registered at

Typically, by child number 3, it is somewhat tacky to have another baby shower. Asking your friends to buy you things the third time around is asking a bit much, and they'll be thinking the same thing.

What I recommend you do is talk to a very close family member of friend. Explain to them that you understand it's not right to have yet another baby shower, but there are certain things that you still need for the baby. Perhaps this person could arrange an intimate lunch or gathering with only very close friends and family.

Another option is to have a "birth party" once the baby is born.

Most people don't have showers for second and third children because you usually have most of the things you need already. It is tacky to throw a shower for yourself because, really, all a shower is is a party to give gifts.

I say that if your friends want to buy something for you, they will know you well enough to know where you ahve registered or they will ask you where you are registered or what you need. Don't email out your registry. It'll look like you're asking for gifts.

Traditionally women only get baby shower with their first child (before you thumbs down look it up) so if you follow the etiquette books you already had one too many. It would be rude my idea is do what my husband and I did buy your own baby supplies. I really am not trying to be rude but I know the people that care will give gifts.

Was there a lot of time between this child and the last?

After two - do you really need anything?

My family doesn't really have showers for subsequent children, but there's a big shower with gifts for the first one.

If no one is having a baby shower for you I wouldn't suggest doing one yourself. It's kind of tacky. Maybe just send out a birth notice and picture when he is born.

if i were u i would hint around so u could find out if they were throwing u one and if so then talk about it like when and where. u know to start off small..as for u sending out emails no i dont think its rude for the simple fact im sure they plan on getting u things so go ahead and do it that away they know wereto go. maybe then someone will get a clue and help u out

Tradition says one shower for the first born only .