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Should I just tell him? Helpp? :(?

I've had a major crush on my best friend Matt for a while now, we've known each other since kindergarten and have gotten really close this year (we're 15). We instant message, talk on the phone, have tons of stuff in common and get along great. But many times I see him looking into my eyes longer or brushing his hand against me or hugging me longer. According to the rest of the population, over exaggerating of course, he likes me back but is too scared to do anything about it since we have such a good friendship that he wouldn't want to mess anything up. I'd love to have the confident to just tell him flat out that I like him but I have the biggest fear of rejection there is. I'll probably be kicking myself over it if nothing is ever done, but I can't bring myself to be the one to do it. How can I let him know I like him? Or finally get him to be the one to ask him out? Advice please?

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    I think the issue here is that people still think the onus is on the guy to make the first move. However, having read a few dating/lifestyle articles, this is what I got from it. it's 2008, a new era, girls can just as much ask a guy out and vice versa.

    Have you ever heard of the phrase, "Go Big or Go Home"? It's basically a risk-taking challenge. You two are the best of friends, right? And you are getting more interested in him than being "just friends". I'd say, you have better opportunity, and less risk, to just tell him how you feel. Friends are supposed to be honest with one another right? So be honest with him.

    From my own life experiences, it hurts more to not do anything, and regretting it for the rest of your life when the opportunity passes, instead of seizing the opportunity and see what turn of events may occur. So, as said, Go big, or go home, :).

  • 1 decade ago

    not to make things difficult, but at 15, anything can happen. You've got a lot of other things to worry about like school and colleges or figuring out what you want to do.

    Don't get too pyched out, since he's your best friend, you probably won't lose the friendship but you'll grow closer even if the relationship isn't right, right now.

    But the other thing is that you are a long way from being ready for marraige ~ why do you need to lock him down in a into commitment? if you want to be affectionate, be affectionate. I don't believe you need the title of dating to be as close as you want to be.

  • 1 decade ago

    Im a48 year old male, when i was about your age i had a crush on my neighbor girl, I he-hawed around about the fact that i really cared about her, she rejected me and said we are to good of friends,so don`t even think of it, there is always the chance of rejection, you never know untill you tell that person how you feel, you may just get used or it might last forever and ever,How grown-up you both are and what you want out of life alsdo matters, take your time, your really to young to be serious, you have a long life ahead of both of you, life is only so long, be just good friends for awhile,and look over the total situation,greg

  • 1 decade ago

    Its what "You" want, you are the only one that is going to make you happy. ...Right ? Let nature take its course if you like each other that much ,,, it will happen , eventually . I'd suggest letting things just happen... and they will , it may take some time but be patient, Love is a serious thing and it shouldn't be rushed. don't ever change who you are for someone else, just be true to yourself.....

    and always be safe,,,,

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  • curi
    Lv 4
    5 years ago

    No, no longer yet. there is too lots occurring together with her emotionally. Telling her includes 2 disadvantages: a million. Say you tell her, she freaks and avoids you, and your friendship suffers and you possibility loosing your BFF; 2. Say you tell her and a relationship develops that's now a "Rebound relationship." those relationships are no longer helpful. Pull your self collectively and be there on your pal as she is going by her breakup. until eventually her heart heals, proceed to be supportive. Seminary female ;)

  • 1 decade ago

    Ahh to be 15 again. I often think If I can be in high school and have the confidence back then that I have now.

    Honestly, what do you have to loose. He says he likes you, your happy. He says no, you move on. But you say nothing, you will always be wondering.

  • 1 decade ago

    thats a hard one but if you just open up and kinda give him hints that you like him like compliment him a little here and there and talk to one of his friends tell them that you like matt and tell them to be like matt i heard that(you) like you or something just kinda hint him hes prolly just as scared of rejection as you are hope i helped

  • 1 decade ago

    sounds like your on your way already.

    seems like he likes you just as much.

    good luck.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    IM him a sex note. see if he responds back with something sexual back. if he is like wtf say u were kidding

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