Is it necessary to have a boyfriend?

Well Lots of issues here:

"Is it necessary to have a boyfriend?"

At this lifestage no it is not necessary to have a boyfriend.

My view is that dating / courting is a path to marriage i.e. a permanent relationship. Of course this is not a popular view nowadays. Many people claim that they can date just for fun; enjoy themselves when they are young etc but more often than not those pursuits end in anything but fun. Lets face it most if not all end. That is not to be gloomy or negative about relationships but to acknowledge the reality that with evrything in life there is such a thing as the next step and if you are not in a position / lifestage to take a relationship through to that next stage of permannecy should it bloom then it will likely end. Whats more it could leave you with much emotional / psychological hurt. So the boyfriend thing is best left for the appropriate lifestage i.e. when you are in a position to see a relationship through to its full development.

Human beings have different lifestages eg. childhood, teen years, young adulthood, marriage etc. And the question you have to ask is how best you think your teen years should be spent. Pursuing boyfriends / relationships which will more likely be exercises in futility or pursuing your personal development which is how I think your young years are best spent. Don't be pressured by what people around you are doing. Thats just giving in to peer pressure. Develop your skills and talents. There will always be time for boyfriend.

"Thinking about this makes me feel that i am not fit and beautiful.Although acc. to my friends i am pretty but I dont feel so.Kindly advice as to should i get involved into this to prove others that i am pretty"

Well sometimes I think everyone feels like that. Maybe becasue we may not be complemented enough, perhaps we are taken for granted but in fact a measure of doubt about such things is normal and common. But this is not the reason anyway to get a bf.

When I went to school I did not have a gf. I did what I have advised you to do. I actually started dating at a later age choosing to develop myself and pursue my ambitions deciding that the only woman I should have sex with should be my wife. I don't feel that I have missed out on anything worthwhile. In fact I think I spared myself heartache, psychological pain, emotional scars and any possibility of catching something unwanted.

hmm you seem awfully confident about your looks, make sure that doesnt come across as arrogant because people don't like that especially in girls...

No i think studies is wayyy more important. Think about it, a boyfriend is temporary, but good GCSE's and A-Levels and Degrees last forever!!! Most of tjose girls will be broke and work as cleaners and waitresses and prostitutes, with 8 children and no husband and will end up as druggie alcoholics...ok that's a bit extreme but probably some of them! Then there's you and you're like the first female president of america or something...

Woo go girl!! Boys are immature at this sort of age anyways...

You don't need a guy at all. At least not a steady one. You can keep your options open and see who you want, when ever you want. Besides, high school guys can be pretty overbearing sometimes, even downright difficult to deal with. All those hormones and things you know. I understand that you high school girls have your own hormones to deal with but you guys seem to have it under control a lot better than the guys.

So, no, you don't need a BF. In fact, even if you got a BF, I would just keep it light and loose with him. Don't get to seriously involved with him. Enjoy yourself first.

no. it's necessary to just be yourself and if that is boyfriendless it doesn't mean that you're any less or more than others. don't get into a relationship just because "everyone's doing it." that will be one of the worst reasons to get into a relationship. enjoy your life, discover as many things that you enjoy doing and learning about as much as possible. the "boyfriend" will just come naturally and don't worry, there are many others who are like you who also wonder and are feeling the pressures of society. don't let others make you feel not fit or not beautiful. each person is beautiful. we are each a unique blessing here on earth.

I would start with friends first and worry about developing relationships etc later. If you need to justify to yourself that you are attractive ask your real friends for an honest answer - but be ready to deal with honest feedback as a positive affermation of what you need to do to make yourself a more complete person.

You know, I'm exactly the same. I still have 2yrs of high school, and I've got decent grades, and I know that I get distracted easily, so I told myself that I don't want anything serious until I'm older. Even when I'm asked out, I decline. I don't think there's anything wrong with it. We're all different, and have different perspectives.

No its not at all, but some people, probably friends (who are really stuck up) will say otherwise just to put you down. Its like that with me, but don't mind them, just block them out. Its their problem not yours.

No its not necessarie at all, Imean what about all the women who got divorced and are being beaten up by their husbands and boyfriends, they will say the same thing.

You shouldn't feel you need to prove anything to anyone but yourself. If studies are your priority then stick to it, you shouldn't feel you need someone as you should have that independent confidence which sounds like you already have but if you like someone then that's different and I'm sure you can find the balance

there is no point in having a b.f. because learning is important. some b.f i know is really bad. they find a girl, then be her boyfriend then sex the girl i mean rape. then they go on to another girl.in my piont of view don't have one

You have to do what makes you feel happy, not what your friends think makes you happy. Plenty of time for boyfriends, and they take up a hell of a lot of your study time!