intimidation and control issues?

I think I'd skip the part about choking her but you're right in telling her that if she doesn't like the answer quit asking the question. She's being controlling and passive agressive.If she wants a favor she needs to be more direct about it. i.e.

Would you mind going to the store with me?

She also eventually needs to realize that the world does not revolve around her and what she needs at any given time.

Some people refer to this as "growing up" hehehe

The anger thing isn't the answer. Just lets her know how you handle whatever she is trying to accomplish.

Best is to be direct, and ask HER why she does this. If she won't answer, get her out of your life.

Yes, it's a highly controlling mechanism people use all the time. It takes your mind off other matters and focuses it on what matters to that individual!

Very selfish, & a narcissistic tendency.

"Friend" is not asking you a question. She is using the question form to tell you what she wants (you to go to the store with her). No matter how you phrase it your answer is "No". Thus it's the wrong answer for her. And yes, she is attempting to intimidate and control you. Your angry response plays into her plan. She has succeeded in setting up her next attempt to exert control. You may feel yourself forced to agree to do as she wants in order to avoid another emotionally draining situation.

If this happens often (more than once) extract youself from this relationship. It won't do any good to explain how you feel because she doesn't care. So take care of yourself by eliminating this "friend" from your life.

I would think that she needs someone to accompany her to the store and she might be sensitive to your answers. To her, either u are not gentlemen enough to accompany her or she is sad to hear something she didn't want to. She might thought u will accompany her to the store but u rejected her...

Woman are very EQ and sensitive. Some times when my husband give me a "can't be bothered" answers and i will question him, "Hey, i guess u can't be bothered to answer your wife's questions properly. Then do you think we can continue this conversation?" He will like, Opps.... ok... sorry....

Being patient is part of the thing to soothe anger... Wat comes around goes ard.

She's not being controlling but that's woman. Woman and man is different. To you its just a normal answers and normal things, why woman wants to make it a big hu-ha? As i have said... woman are very sensitive to questions and answers... they will think alot of things about your answers and if she likes it, she will feel happy. If she duns means u dun like her...

I'll stop being naggy... Woman will always be woman... tat's the different thing from man. And be patient and dun rush with your words... u might really hurt someone ... one day....