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What can I do to make him realize he is going to lose me if things dont change? I need advice NOW!?
My boyfriend and I are incredibly happy when we are together. We get along fabulously....he truly is my very best friend. I couldnt imagine a better friend. We are currently expecting our first child together.... However, here is the hang up I am having: He is still living in a home with his ex. She is financially and emotionally unstable and he is having problems leaving there because she has his child. Everytime he packs his things to leave.....she finds something else to mess up or fall apart so he cannot. I understand his need to help this woman and his child. However, I cannot stand the fact that he feels as though he needs to live there to do this. I want him to leave that house. I have been very very patient while he has been trying to teach her money management for the last few months. However, I am beginning to lose my patience, which I have very little of to begin with. What am I supposed to do? Do I sit by and wait? Do I tell him I am done with him? HELP!!!
4 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
been there and done that....although i did not know at first that he lived with his ex when we first started dating...i was patient and we moved in together right after our baby girl was born....but i do also understand patience only carries you so long!
- Anonymous1 decade ago
I can help you with the question. If he has a child with this woman, he obviously needs to help out his KID not her... He isnt her daddy. He doesnt need to be showing her money management... she isnt 10 years old... she is a woman with a child that needs to take care of her child so she needs to get her crap together. His only job is to provide financial aid to his child. The fact that she is keeping him from moving out... is a lie... he can leave if HE wants to. She is making him feel bad and controling him to a point by using her feelings, but the over all choice for him to leave is HIS. The fact that YOU are now pregnant with his kid and he isnt living with you but wont leave his ex... girl tell him flat out... "THIS IS WHAT I WANT... IF ITS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN IM OUT OF HERE" You may have to give him an ultimatum. It will be hard, but it needs to be done. You may be sad but he needs to realize you TWO are in a relationship now... NOT HIM AND HIS EX. He needs to leave her. Just because he isnt living there doesnt mean that he wont help his child out. Her being emotionally unstable is a sign that maybe he should have custody of his child. The fact that she is bad with money is another sign. To me there are a lot of red flags but over all its your choice. Good Luck!
- 1 decade ago
If he really wanted to leave then he would..and it's still possible to support the child and not live there..She is an adult and doesnt need him to care for her...He's getting the best of both worlds and has you sitting in the dark waiting on him...dont play his fool
- 1 decade ago
Sömething is wröng with him. He wön't let gö of her för söme reasön. If yöu can't cönvince him tö leave, he döes nöt want tö leave.
