10 year son and accident issues HELP?!?

My daughter is 10, almost 11 and for a short time we had the same issue. She didn't full on fill her drawers but had held it for so long that there was a thick smudge in her drawers. This started abruptly around the time she turned 10 and went on off and on for about 2 weeks when I finally sat down with her and in a non-confrontational way when there was nobody around so that I didn't embarress her I brought it up. I just started the conversation like..."Lately I've been noticing... Is something going on?Are you having problems controlling it..This isn't like you"

The answer I ended up getting was that she and her friends were in the middle of something ..a game or sports or something so she didn't want to stop.She would try holding it, but a little got in her underwear. She basically was afraid of missing out on something and didn't want to leave her friends.

I just told her she was a big girl and too old for this and that it was ok, accidents happen,I wasn't angry and that if her friends are real friends they will still be there when she comes back out.We haven't had any issues in a while now.

Good luck and I hope things get worked out and better.

This is one of those situations that show how stupid people are becoming. NOT YOU, but her! A lot of people are thinking that everything needs police involvement 'to scare' people into doing what they consider to be right. But - it has MAJOR side effects! A Long term Record. People think that a charge given to a juvenile is 'sealed' when they turn 18. WRONG! I cannot tell you how many people I talk to on a DAILY basis that cannot EVER get a good job in the government sector, schools, hospitals or military because of a juvenile charge. A lot of parents think that it will shake the kid up and get them thinking straight if they call the cops. The problem is - cops have to file something to every call they get. It could be a full case, or a journal entry - but the record is there! They HAVE to do something, because if they don't - the police officer AND the police Dept and Leadership could be sued, and/or go to prison themselves. The biggest offense I see is: Assault/Domestic Violence. And that charge could be 2 brothers being kids and smackin each other around. But it disqualifies them for life from any decent jobs. Burglary is the next - and sometimes it is just a kid getting into his own home. But mom and dad want to teach a lesson. The last would be tied - either Sexual Assault (two teens having sex) or Terroristic Threat (one kid telling the other that he will kick his butt after school). All of the above will screw up a persons life - forever. There is NO way to overcome that charge. Dismissed/Deferred charges will always exist. They don't disappear either... So.... I would talk to that childs mother, and all parents about the serious long term reprecussions of their own actions in dealing with the futures of all children.

There are a number of reasons why this might be happening.

Before deciding that there is a psychological issue, you need to rule out physical causes.

A visit to your child's doctor is in order.

Be well.

Has he had any big stress lately? If he has, you might consider talking to his school counselor.

If not, it might just be that he forgets to go to the bathroom when he is playing. Ask him about it. (That might be a whole different question entirely.)

If neither of these is the case, take him to the doctor. He might just have problems controlling that part of himself.

This seems quite serious. I would have a wee chat with the boy about this. He might feel a bit embarassed about it but pursue it anyways. Maybe something is happening at school or with friends. Perhaps he has an allergy to some types of foods and might need to see a doctor.

you should comfront him about it. it maybe some insecurity issues. or he is scaring himself somehow. it still presist i would got to a doctor cause that odd. he may not be doing it on purpose something could be physicaly wrong not so much mentally