Views on Marriage?

Sounds like a good plan on paper. However, my BF and i have been living together for over 5 years and are still waiting for "something" till we both feel ready to get married. Neither of us is overly excited about making it legal and neither of us wants to be without the other, so we may grow old waiting for "something"// neither of us really knows what.

If we lived apart we would either have determined these things by now or be over it and perhaps with the "right" persons.

So bottom line when you cut corners, live together or cheat the system you pay for it in the end.

I say don't do any kind of half way deal- puts you in odd positions you may not think of beforehand.

Experience is speaking here!

Well I think you'd be abusing the system as you yourself said that if you and your boyfriend decide to go thru with "the real thing" you'd have your marriage annulled and then get remarried, that seems a bit strange doesn't it? Why wouldn't you just stay married. And why abuse the system, if you're going to be married on paper then why wouldn't you be living together? I know here if someone gets married in an attempt to gain citizenship there are a lot of hoops they have to jump through before they can become a legal citizen.

My g/f is here (in the U.S.) on a work Visa and has no problems with work, health care, etc. She pays taxes like everyone else and is patiently waiting for citizenship to go thru. While we are planning on getting married it has nothing to do with her becoming a citizen (especially since our state does not recognize gay marriages). We would be doing it for us not to get any governmental benefits.

You need to rethink this.

to declare "christian marriage" is ignoring the reality that the country is created from human beings of various religions and atheist perspectives. to declare basically the "Christian marriage" is real ability all and sundry who marries in an Islam marriage, Hindu marriage or as civil non - non secular ceremony, is as a result incorrect. To base a regulation of marriage on Christian view of marriage altogether forget pertaining to to the multitudes of folk and their ideals that stay in many international locations. it rather is why faith and politics shouldn't blend.

It doen't sound good because if you don't really mean the marriage vows then the marriage is invalid and you would be living with Him out of wedlock.

That's called marriage fraud, you and your partner (your partner in crime, practically speaking) could be fined, imprisoned, and/or deported if they catch you. (And your two different addresses will be a dead giveaway)