Do you concentrate on your strengths or your weaknesses?

I acknowledge my weaknesses and am aware of them, but focus on my strengths in order to overcome them. I tend to agree with our friends Marcus and Donald. Stepping outside of our comfort zone is necessary for growth, and we often have to focus on our strengths if we are to achieve what we intend to. Remember that confidence is the first prerequisite for any great undertaking.

Peace,

Drew

PS: I took Applied Music Theory and loved it. I aced it and every other music class I took, but I still got a drafting degree. Go figure.

it depends on what kind of day I am having...

if I am having a super day then I am like yea I am a winner

but if i am having a pity party then I am like look at me I am a loser I can't even do this....

but that really doesn't answer your question does it... I know I am not mechnaically inclined.. I totally suck at anything that requires tools... and I even took wood shop in high school.(and got a b) still, I would hire a plumber to fix my sink than try to do it myself...

i think i should be the best person i can be.. and the best person i can be is someone who is not mechanically inclined but the person who i am....

who is the best person you can be -- the singer or the lawyer??

I kind of know my limits too, but if you stay inside your comfort zone you will never surprise yourself. Last summer I went Scuba diving even though I thought I would hate it and am frightened of fish, the guy gave me a smushed up sea urchin to feed the fishes and all its fish blood was everywhere and I damn near passed out. I swam to the surface so fast I thought I'd got the bends.

The fish were about 5cm long and pretty yellow and blue angel fish. I still see their horrible little cold fishy eyes staring at me, all around me. ugh.

You don't know how much I got teased for that little adventure.

Sometimes you should just have to trust the little voice inside that says, "nah, don't bother trying"

a little of both Sophia

I am very open to constructive criticism and wish to improve on areas that are not so good

my main one throughout my life has been my lack of knowledge.... I was ( and am at times ) a typical blonde

and my family would joke with me about how boring I was and dumb

I have now educated myself to a standard that I am happy with ... although continuing to do more

this was ( for a long time ) outside of my comfort zone ... but now I am loving it

just keep moving the goal posts !

While my 'weakness' beg for attention, my 'strengths' are balanced by them when I focus on my 'strengths' and use them to bring my 'weaknesses' up into the 'strength' realm.

It's my choice today where I focus and upon what in my endeavors. Some days I coast, some days I soar. Occasionally I nap and rarely do I ride submerged, and then not for very long.

For example:

I spent more than half my life to date in selective mutism, living in victim/victor mentality, where every breath was a fight between life and death - fear was god even though I professed something else to myself and others.

I could not touch nor be touched. The strength I gave fear-based belief didn't feel 'weak' at all. I couldn't get out of the house without help. My 'comfort-zone' was not comfortable at all, but it provided a false sense of safety (hah - suicide was always begging for attention - no safety there in that tortuous struggle within my own mind). But fear of success and the 'unknown' of the future, I allowed to keep me bound up in the relative 'safety' of misery.

Now, for over 25 years, I've practiced 'living on the edge' as it were, and 'stretching my envelope' and definitely 'forcing myself outside of my "comfort zone" ' to the point that I'm here on YA, I am a very grateful massage therapist and spiritual teacher/counselor, married with a grown offspring who is a delight to the world, and I move about on the planet with relative ease and comfort (I go to movies by myself, I drive multi-state vacations by myself, I can hug and be hugged, etc). It may sound trite, but it is so true, Love has set me free.

Not the small, confining love defined by our humanity, but Love larger than anything anyone has ever described.

It's my choice today, rather than being bound in fear, to step out 'blindly' with confidence that the road does indeed form up WHEN I step out, and not a millisecond before.

Practice, in my world, doesn't necessarily make perfect, but I am perfectly capable of and have experienced that practicing stretching out of my 'comfort zone' does indeed make 'better' every time.

So, I don't know what 'we' should do. That's up to each individual. I know I'm doomed to failure when I 'push' myself to reach others' standards or goals. I achieve success for myself when I embrace all my parts - weak and strong/dark and light/'bad' and 'good' and don't try to amputate or ignore or 'get around' the obstacles inside myself, but instead make out of them opportunities for growth. And only I know what that means for me at the moment I'm in it and how it works out by the choices I make. I do know that I'm always free to change my mind, make another choice in the very next second - as in the Q, changing majors; both were great choices, but one was preferred and switched over to. Every choice has it's valleys and hills and also the level mesas or meadows and unique landscapes and views. I can stay in the swamp or let the wind caress me from the mountain top or live peacefully by a clear stream. It's up to me, if it's to be.

And I'm always free - to change my mind, my opinion, my geographic location, my perspective, etc.

Thanks for the uplifting Q :)

My strengths. I am not good looking. So what's the point of worrying about that?

I am good at physics. So I like studying physics, doing maths, etc. Concentrating on it makes me happy.

However, none of these makes me a "better" person. What makes someone a good person is how kind, generous, loving and caring they are. If someone uses his/her strengths for a good cause, he/she is a good person.

6 of one 1/2 dozen of the other

Success grows in parallel, working both on your strength and your weaknesses, not just concentrating on one aspect of life to help bring about balance.

I'm really lazy, so I just try to stick to what I'm good at. After all, being a ninja does take a lot of practice to maintain your skillz.

kthxbai

No matter how many things I have going for me, I always find the things I am not happy with and dwell on them. i've very weakness-oriented.