My Mom doesn't know that I married my daughter's father. In fact nobody in my family is aware that I?

Keep your mouth shut for now. Also, don't ever tell them anything negative about your husband because you will forgive and forget.....but they will remember forever. I would just live my life and leave them out of it. They aren't going to be happy for you anyway with their attitudes about men and marriage. How about take a nice family picture of you and your husband and baby and send it in a Christmas Card with a note that you got married on April 15, 2008 (or whatever date!). Good luck and don't let your family drag you down!

What do you want to gain by telling them? If you already know the reactions & you know they will be negitive, what is it you are looking for, acceptance or a fight? Are you Happy with your decision? - If so, then that is all that matters. The next trip back home, take your husband, introduce him as such & leave it at that... You can only bring on the positive when you yourself are a positive person. Being around negitive, opinionated ppl will bring you down & you will second guess your choice in this matter.... Why would you want to do that if you are content in your choice?

I'll tell you what I told my daughters. If you want to earn my respect and want me to treat you as an adult, act like one. Being secretive or manipulative will not earn points. Obviously you grew up in somewhat of an anti-man household. Be proud of your relationship and your baby. Hiding these things certainly have reinforced your mom's negative reaction to your husband. So be up front, don't engage in a battle each time you talk. By being secretive/afraid, you are giving away your power. Also, I told my daughters not to whine about the trivial stuff to me. As their mother, that only slants my view against their spouse. If it's big, abuse of any kind, that's different. I gave my power to my mother all her life. It made for a very unhappy relationship for the two of us! Spread your wings and soar!

Best of luck!

As I examine it, you would be 2d cousins as you share a great grand discern. you would be a techniques sufficient bumped off which you will marry without criminal or genetic issues. there's a particularly smaller danger of genetic abnormalities yet marriage between first cousins is criminal in maximum places. Albert Einstein, Charles Darwin and Queen Victoria all did.

Your family will be even more hurt if they find out you hid this from them for a long period of time. Maybe visit them, bringing your new husband with you and your daughter. Seriously tell them how you feel about it all and tell them you got married. If they get upset about it, don't worry, they won't be upset for long. It'll probably last a week, if that.

First of all, congrats! Um, I think that you should tell them, because chances are they will find out eventually, and secrets only strain a relationship. And really, who cares what they think? Most people consider marriage a blessing. Just tell them. Its not like you robbed a bank...you just got married!

I think you should maybe send them some wedding pictures and a little card saying "we got married" or something to the effect. And maybe throw in a I hope you can be happy for us, I know <daughters name> will be having two parents who love her... yata yata... that sort of thing...