HELP!! What does he mean?

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Hi all,
I'm taking a short course in french and this guy sits with me every lecture. He's really lovely and kind and about two weeks ago he asked me what I was doing after class and I mentioned that I was going to get coffee and he said he knew a good place and whether I wanted to go with him. I said yes, but needed to sort out an argument with a friend and told him to meet me there. Unfortunately, the problem took a while to sort out and by the time I got there he'd left. The next class I apologised profusely and offered to make up for it and go out for coffee after class. He basically said he was busy and literally ran out after the lecture. It seemed fine for a while but now he doesn't sit with me. I don't get it- what is he thinking? What should I do to fix up the situation? He's a really nice person and I feel horrible enough but don't know if I'm making too big a deal out of the situation. HELP!!!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

he is obviously embarressed and disapointed. you stood him up! make sure you explain the situation completely so he understands why it happened. maybe ask him again to go out for coffee and make sure u express that u really wanted to go the last time.

if that doesnt make any difference there isn't much u can do. wait it out and see what happens.

blnkfn80 · Answer

Oh man, your hurt his feelings. Sounds like hes ultra sensitive, and maybe he was a little too emotionally invested in the situation before hand (i.e maybe he has really liked you for a while and was working up the courage to ask you out.) He could just take time to "heal" or you may need to find some sweet way to give him a little reminder that you are interested in getting to know him and spending time together, maybe a cute note written in french? Basically he felt shut down and all you need to do now is go that extra mile.

MrMarblesTI · Answer

It sounds to me like he thinks you snubbed him. Tell him again how sorry you are and offer to pay for his coffee. If that doesn't get him to come around, you might be out of luck.

Dave87gn · Answer

You fcked up. the message you sent by showing up so late was the he isnt worth you being on time.

He got the message

♥♠$ʬȅ€t $tȧɌ♥♠ · Answer

I don't know why he's doing that.. Umm.. Just tell him you're really sorry and ask him what's up, like with not sitting where he did before and stuff.. Basically, just talk to him about it..

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