Am I wrong for feeling this way about my fiances Mom?

My MIL was and still slightly is the same way. When my husband and I were just dating she was very nice to me but always told me terrible things about my husband's borther's wife. As soon as we were engaged her attitude changed toward me. I was shocked. She was awful and rude to me behind my husband's back. Finally one day after we had been married a few years he walked up behind her as she was being ugly to me. Only then did he finally start to defend me but he still doesn't defend me like he should so you are lucky to have him on your side. With in 8 hours of my miscarriage she said "Well, now you have no reason to get married." We had started planning the wedding way before I got pregnant so the baby changed nothing. Luckily, the terrible stories she had told me about my sister-in-law were all false and we have eachother when the MIL starts acting crazy. I will say that things with her have gotten a lot better than they were 8 years ago. If you love him... Dealing with the MIL is worth it. Just keep her in check and don't let her run over you in the begining but always kill her with kindness and show her you aren't going anywhere no matter what she throws at you. Eventually the game will get old and things will get better.

If you wanna appreciate the ones emotions of your bf and his grandparents, then I say supervise the whole lot. You are the mother now, so your bf's mom can not have the complete manipulate over your youngster like she did her possess. I'd make certain you had been there for as a lot interplay among the youngster and her as feasible, and quite, she can not do a lot to him as an toddler. But while the youngster is historic sufficient to fully grasp matters, make certain you speak with him/her approximately how you can fully grasp while folks are mendacity and matters like that. I agree, loved ones or no longer, she feels like an overly unhealthy affect on folks with very low morales. However, it additionally feels like she's obtained such a lot of manipulative matters happening correct now, that she would possibly not be in a position to commit one hundred% of her time to messing up your child, too. I believe you are well to desire to appreciate their needs and utterly justified in feeling that approach approximately that horrible girl too. It's a balancing act, however finally, you're this youngster's mom and you're going to have the finest affect on it, so her harm will also be minimized. Good Luck!

Your marriage is all about you and your husband. I don't read much about how your husband feels about this, other than the fact he defends you. I'm hearing (reading) into this that she has many emotional and psychological issues that you can not possibly resolve. I would definitely talk to a counselor with your husband to be about how to handle this type of behavior and stay clear of her after the wedding. If you are in love with him as I'm sure you are. You will try everything to keep your marriage and family together. I think you can make it work, just be as strong as it sounds like you are.

I married into a family like that, but it was my husbands sister, and grandmother that gave me hell. It came to a point that we just moved out of state, because my husband couldn't stand the way they would treat our sons, and me. he has not spoken to them in years and we are better for it. This women is not going to stop being mean to you, so my advice is to talk it over with your soon to be husband that you have doughs marring him.

Your fiance needs to step up to the plate and put his miserable mom in her place. She sound horrible.

This woman is pathetic but it's not up to you to fix her. I would cut someone like this out of my life. She's bound to bring a lot of negativity to your life and when you have children, I doubt you'll want or need this type of influence.

Good luck, you'll need it. I'm so sorry for the loss you suffered in March.

Your fiance needs to decide if he is marrying you or going to continue to cater to his mom. He needs to run interference and clearly define for his mother what the future relationship will be. She can't be allowed to hurt you and she can't be welcome in his life if she is hurtful toward you. Then, if he lays down the rules of engagement for his mother, he has to enforce them and you need to be fair to him as he tries to balance things going forward. He is moving from mom to wife and it is critical that he understands where his loyalty is going forward. If she understands the choice becomes hers!

Good luck, it sounds like you will have an interesting life. If he won't lay down the law, you will have a snapshot of what the future will be.

I don't think you are wrong at all, she sounds like she has some psychological issues she needs to work out. How does your fiancee feel about the horrible things she said to you? You don't want to be w/ someone who isn't on your side and supporting you.

first thing to realize is that when you marry this man, you marry her, too. she'll be in your life forever after that unless your man feels the same way as you about his mother and the two of you cut her completely out of your life. if you don't see that happening than you have to ask yourself do you love this man and want to be with this man soooo bad that the presence of his mother in your life won't matter?

She's the horrible person, not you. Can your husband to be put up with her? If not, seriously consider moving away (even across country if necessary.) She will do everything in her power to ruin your life. Its up to you not to let her.

your feelings toward that b*tch is causing your fiance pain?

he's fu*kin' dickless.

my mom yelled at my wife once and i cut them and my entire family off for six years once.

frekin' mama's boys make me puke.

that's 3 times i puked this morning. i must be pregnant.