How do I get my 4yr old to sleep in her own bed?

You have to be strict when getting her to sleep in her own bed, don't feel like a bad mum, you are helping her in the long run.

Put her into her own bed in her own room read her a bed time story, kiss her goodnight and tell her you love her. Then close the door and go to bed. If she stays in her bed and cries just go and sit in her room, don't say anything to her at all, just let her know that you are there. But don't do it for too long otherwise she might just start doing it because she knows you will come.

If she comes into your room carry her back to her own room, lay her in bed and say I love you but big girls sleep oin their own beds don't they. Kiss her again and leave. Don't give in, otherwise she could figure it out and keep doing it.

It might take a while, and you will probably feel horrible doing it but both of you will sleep better once she settles and you will have more energy to play with her during the day.

Good luck!

Put her in her bed. First night you sit right beside the bed where she can touch you. Stay there until she goes to sleep. Don't communicate with her. Tell her before hand what you are doing. Next night move just a little farther away, next night a little more, move to the doorway, move to the hall. It may take a week or so, but it will work. Also leave a night light on . If she gets up during the night, resume the sitting where you were that night. I never took anything like this on until I new I had the time or patience to stick it out for a week or so. But it sounds like you're not getting sleep anyway.

At 4, she's playing you like a fiddle. She cries, she gets what she wants. Worst of all, she knows it. It's time to step up to the plate, mom! Put her in her room and let her cry. Every time she comes out, you turn her around and put her back. It may be an hour or more of going back. The first time, you say to her, "It's bedtime and you need to sleep in your own bed." After that, don't engage. Just physically pick her up an put her back in bed without saying a word. No matter what she says to you, don't react and just keep bringing her back. Eventually, she'll stop coming out because she realizes it gets her nowhere. She needs to cry to get to sleep. When she gets up at 3 am to come into your bed, you can't let her. Turn her around and march her butt back to her own bed. It'll only take a couple of nights before she gets the new system down pat.

Do NOT sleep in her bed. That's the same issue, people! Why is ok for her to sleep with you in one room, but not the other? Common sense... if you want her to sleep alone, it's got to start now before she's six and sleeping in your bed.

try laying in her bed and maybe she'll want to sleep there because you are there. and then when she falls asleep, you can leave.

here is what one mom did...

"I am in the same situation and I have found that using a chart and reward system worked for my child. I broke the problem into a couple of parts: going to sleep in her own bed (at which point she would join me in my bed at 1:00am or so) and staying in her own bed. For going to sleep in her own bed, I laid down with her at first and gradually moved to sitting in the room, moving to the door and finally sitting outside of her door, while she fell asleep. This took a few weeks. Then for sleeping in her bed through the night, I used a digital clock, with the minutes blocked out and only the hour seen. She can only get up and come to my bed after 5am. After a certain number of successes at each stage, she got some kind of reward. It has worked well with her. The whole process has taken a few months but has been relatively smooth. Now she goes to bed in her own bed and sleeps through the night many nights. anonymous"

My 2 year old was scared to sleep in her own bed. We got her a small tv and play her movies for her at bedtime, let her pick one out. She knows she can lay down and have 30 minutes of watching a movie, then it's time to shut the tv out. I have always played a lullaby cd while she was sleeping so when the tv goes out, the music comes on, very softly, and she falls asleep very well now. Good luck!

stop guilting yourself into taking her to your bed....you will feel far less crappy if she isn't right there next to you. It will be more difficult since she is already in this routine....but the best thing to do is to immediately start a new routine.....of 10 minutes before bedtime, placing her in her bed and reading a story....then lights out, and sleep time....close her door. If she cries, ignore it for at least 20 minutes...she is tired and doesn't want to be there, of course she will cry.....just take a breather if it gets too hard......

If she leaves the room, say "bedtime', and put her back in bed......if she comes out again, say nothing and put her back in bed...and repeat.....it may take several times....but she will get it and will soon be sleeping in her own bed. My 1 yr old sleeps 10 hours per night in his own bed--so wonderful!!

Keep on putting her back in her bed for the first three times tell her you have to stay in your bed like a big girl and after that just put her back.... Ask her why she's scared like if theres a monster under her bed or something like that

what i do is put a movie on in living room and let her fall asleep on couch then i would take her in her room. she did that for a while then i put dora or shrek on in her room have a night light and just tell her mommy right here when it goes off go to sleep eventually the routine will work, thats how i trained our 4 year old

This is very hard. I have tried numerous things and still have problems with my son. You can try a cool night light or those sound machines. i have also gotten a outer space slide show or the glow in the dark stars and moons. I also tried really big stuffed animals for him to sleep with. but in the end a really boring dvd works that knocks him out real fast.

it's a phase and it will be done when she's ready. If u really want it to stop tell her she can sleep in your room if you can sleep in hers than she will feel like your taking it and want it back;)