I'm about to get divorced, I'm only 34, you can read my 2 prior posts as to the reasons I'm getting one,

Check out my other answers to your other two questions.

At this point you're separated (legally) and you can start dating right away.

Your sex drive will come back after you get out of this depression (i.e. the chemicals flush out of your system and others are produced, i.e. serotonin).

If you see a woman who you think is hot and you like her, you can say "Hi", or "Hi, I think you look absolutely beautiful."

No woman would reject such a compliment.

I feel for you, been through a similar thing with an emotionally abusive ex after five years and she left me overnight, whil engaged, with wedding invitations sent out. It's taken me year and I'm still not really ready to date becasue the shock I experienced. Everyone will tell you to get right back up on the horse, but it's different after emotional/mental abuse, so only you will know when you are trully ready, ther eare no set timeframes for something like this because everyone is different... my ex was dating in two months. Take your time and deal with your depression and feelings first by yourself, as hard as it may be. You can try and date and see how it goes, but if you find yourself constantly thinking of the ex or wanting to talk about it, you are definately not ready, and there is nothhing wrong with that. Take your time, don't go into a new relationship with baggage, you will know when.

Give yourself some time to sort yourself out emotionally. This is early days and you need to take a break from all that stuff to recover from what you've been through. Your sex drive will come back and the depression will lift eventually. When you are more stable you will meet better women, as well. When a person is in the throes of upheaval like you are right now, chances are the relationships or attractions you form will be a little skewed and weird, anyway. Give it time. Let things settle a bit. Good luck.

Not only should you wait before entering into the dating scene, but it would be "very" important for you to try to determine how to avoid attracting another abusive person into your life. Once you understand that people (for different reasons) attract similar people like the one they just divorced, you will be on your way to finding a good match for you. You sound mixed up over the relationship issues and anyone you attract right now will be a rebound fling. Don't waste more emotional energy...heal first and find someone who can be objective to share your past to find answers to the dance that just ended with your ex. It will take work, but will be worth it.

Someone once told me --"I'd rather be single and miserable than married and miserable." Be open to new women friends to spend time with...it will be easier for you to get through this period in your life.

I think you should put yourself out there straight away. I think you will just wallow in grief otherwise. I was just out of a hell relationship when I decided that I wanted a few casual flings, nothing serious, when boooom I met the love of my life....my husband. In the early days I kept freaking out, saying this is just rebound, its doomed etc....but we are still happy 10 yrs plus a baby later.

My point is, don't let this one mistake (marrying your ex) define you, or ruin the rest of your life. You don't have to leap into a relationship, just put yourself out there. Call up some of your old buddies, they will still want to hang out with you, and they may know other people who you can hang out with/ date. I too live in Seattle...I have lots of lonely female co workers.....they would love to met a nice guy like you! Good luck......time heals....

You should start to date again when you're emotionally ready to. Don't rush yourself. There isn't any "set time" or deadline. You want to be fully over your ex before you get involved with someone else otherwise you will only be bringing baggage into the new relationship. You will know when the time is right.

you probably got you poor mind blown. whenever our emotions are traumatized which i can guarantee happened to you, you probably would not have married a mentally abusive person or if you did know you didn't believe it anyway you need to have communication with another befor you have a physical one.are you the kind of person who can now see the difference between physical and emotional? physical dosent matter if there emotional abusive hugh? i wish you the best and the most positive thought go your way love

The reason you have no sex dive is because of the person you were ! with belive me it will come back im a woman and i know , it will all work out for you in the end.

Give it time, you'll get the desire. Until than take it easy. Let yourself heal. Work on yourself. Divorce is like a death. You need to h eal

gentleman, making err is human...but repeated errors cud not be accepted..u r still on the safer side, as u dont have kids...You will not get anybody in this world sufficing ur needs and rate as 100%....So please have gud friends, enjoy ur life without commitments....make Money and it gets u even sex, for u r only 34........nothing more to worry..keep going...