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People are saying that my boyfriend changed me...?

My family and friends keep saying that my boyfriend has changed me into a meaner person, but I don't feel like I've changed at all. I feel like I'm finally becoming who I am..and am willing to defend that person now. Things that bothered me before are more annoying, especially the double standards in my home. I don't know how to get them to stop blaming him, it's not him, it's because they are doing things that make me mad. My boyfriend even tells me I should be nicer to my family and talk to treat them better, I feel like they are using him as an excuse for my bad behavior because its' easier then facing why I'm really upset. For so long I let everyone walk all over me..and now that I don't..people are mad at me..do you think that my boyfriend changed me for the worse? If so, how do I change that, and if not..then how do I become the person everyone wants me to be without loosing myself and without being a doormat?

Update:

julvrag..sp?

Okay, so I don't think I understand what you mean...he's not telling me what to do...he's giving me his opinion on what I should be doing. I know your assuming that he's the boss..but it's not like that..I'm not sure how to explain it, but him telling me is like him asking me to please consider his advice. Like, all of you are telling me what y'all think..

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Ok, so, it seems that you'r boyfriend didn't change you. Its more like you have a saftey wall now. You'r boyfriend is you'r layer of protection now o, you feel more confidenet. He is part of you so you feel stronger. You'r family thinks it is you'r boyfriend because this happened once you got you'r boyfriend. It is because of him. Though its not him. You just need tomake sure that you still have some of you'rself left. You are feeling that you'r boyfriend is you'r bodyguard metally. This isn't a problem. Just make sure you realize that you are not someone different becase of him, You are stil you. No one caN CHANGE THAT!

  • 1 decade ago

    Sorry but the relationship seems to have changed you, and it does not sound like it has been for the better. Remember it is easier to blame others than to see what is going on right in front of you. It also sounds like you are not expressing yourself well, both with your family and your boyfriend. Think about the fact your boyfriend is telling you that you should be nicer to your family, this should be a clue that things have not changed for the better in your life.

  • 1 decade ago

    FIRST, your happiness and true inner self should be your main concern!! Maybe you should express to your family that there's something inside you that you are expressing!! If your family don't notice your change is all about them and not your boyfriend, then maybe you need him more than them!! If your life and person has been going unnoticed by your family, then I can really understand your anger!! I say...focus more on your boyfriend..... he seems to be the one paying the attention!! Always be your self....it's the only way to true happiness!!!! GOOD LUCK!!!

  • 4 years ago

    you will ought to assert some thing in front of her whilst he's around approximately how he's a lot sufficiently massive to maintain you coming lower back for greater. then he will sense greater effectual with a bit of luck. and point out that he's a "grower". maximum men arent that vast whilst they don't seem to be excited, so until eventually your mom walked in whilst your boyfriend grew to become into status around nude with a *****..... tell her: "you need to improve in the past you place on the practice!"

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    OMG!!! I'm in that exact same situation my mom and sister said that my b/f changed me also just because I would get mad and when I would say it's not him it's me this is who I REALLY AM. They say your just defending him. At first I cared about what they thought and I tried to tone it down but then I tought i'm not gonna change for them and you shouldn't either if that is who you are stick to it.

    Source(s): MY LIFE
  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    well if itz true u have 2 take care dont chang to abad person

  • 1 decade ago

    you are probably just asserting your independence, and your family doesn't want to hear it. they probably don't think you're old enough to have your own opinions about things.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    just be who you think you truely are and stick with it don't let anyone change you

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