Why is it ok for older men to date younger women but when older women date younger men it's unacceptable?

it is acceptable now look at demi moore they just made a name for it is all....they call older women with younger men cougars

there is a double standard, and historically, it has been assumed that it's ok for an older man to date a younger woman because he can viably produce children with her at a much older age than a woman of his own age...

I don't know if that's the real reason or not, but it's getting better. I have a 32 year old friend who is about to marry a 21 year old man. And it doesn't seem weird anymore. It would have 10 years ago.

You don't say how old you are, but I have to say from experience, opinion is changing on this topic, and in the right direction, too! Until this year I never dated ANYONE younger than myself. But I was getting discouraged with how old men my age and older were seeming to me (I'm 42).

I met a 32 year old man in a nightclub and dated him for a couple months. I was perfectly honest about my age and even asked him WHY he would want to date someone 10 years older. He told me I was hot. What's a girl to do? We weren't compatible for the long term, but it was very fun and exciting.

Since then the youngest man i've dated was 24. Again, I was straight about my age. With this one I was a little self-conscious in public (I don't look 42, but sure don't look 25 either!). We didn't last, but no bad feelings either, and it was great fun.

Ignore the bad stuff, life is too short to let people bring you down. Take care of yourself and be happy, and you will attract men who want that in a woman. You'd be surprised how many men find older women hot today. :-)

Maybe you just haven't found the right men yet! In my experience there are plenty of younger men out there who want to date a woman older than them. They state older women are more mature and don't play so many games...and of course they state they have more sexual experience!

I'm 36 (although I've been told I look 28), and my boyfriend is 30. My ex was 6 years younger than me too.

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I don't know what part of the country that you live in but, where I live that's all I see is older women and younger men. Like you said older men want younger women. I myself love older women because they know what the want in life and relationships and they don't need a lot of attention and reassurance like younger women tend to need. I suggest being a trail brazer and get yourself a younger man.

that's great!!! i have that problem too. i get told all the time by girls-and i mean girls-that i look 16, 17. i wear athletic type gear courtesy of being involved in volunteering with youth basketball. i politely tell the younger girls that i am not their guy. but when i approach women my age-early 30's-i get this look like they're brushing off what they think is their son or something! hahahaha! so hey, we both have discovered the same problem! people go by looks, and half of the time, they're wrong about what they think a person's age or maturity level might be. can't we just accept someone for who they are?

I doubt the younger man is frowning in disapproval you Cant make everyone happy. Keep flirting it makes the world go round.

There IS a double standard! It's been there since the beginning of time! Men do not want women to play on THEIR playground!! Why?? Because WE CAN PLAY BETTER!

We ACE the game! They just want to SEEM like Playboys with a 40DD bimbo on their arm. All them chicks want is $$$$$ -- the sex is bad -- 1 min men! LOLZ!

We BECOME the Playboys the wanna Be! We take them boys, twist 'em up, show 'em how it gets done, turn 'em out and keep 'em begging for more!

Well, through the ages, young women always married and dated older men. I don't think any body's used to dating women that are older or men that are younger. It just doesn't seem right. The man has to technically be the older more responsible one and stuff.

How old are you again? If you're an "older" woman, then by now you should have learned that, in the end, other people's opinions have absolutely no impact on your life. If you feel pressure from a supposed double standard, it is only because you, on some level, feel compelled to give in to it.

It's an old school double standard, and it's stupid. I think the times are starting to change, though. I have a 28 year old male friend who is married to a 41 year old woman and they are happy as can be.