girly advice?

No your not a bad husband. I think cuddling would eventually lead to sex. Not sure why she wouldn't want to have sex after you cuddled her a little. My husband never wants to cuddle and I hate it! I just want to cuddle a little first but he just wants to say " do you want to have sex?" and I'm supposed to be ready. I guess you could talk to her, but I've talked to my husband many times and it doesn't seem to change. I think you should compromise so if you are only having sex twice a month and you want it more than she should at least bump it up to once a week. So I guess you should try telling her how you feel. Hope it helps!

Hunny, talking can help, tell her how you feel, that when you are close to her it stirs you up, then maybe if you give she'll give. You know the best time to cuddle is AFTER sex. Good Luck

She might be up for more sex if you cuddled more and were more affectionate. I know that when I'm touched more in non-sexual ways, I'm more likely to want sex as well.

I also suggest masturbation.

So, I would recommend that you talk to her and you communicate with her, about how you feel, you obviously have a lot of frustrations about how you feel and instead of telling us, you should tell her, this is a little too private for you to be telling us.

She knows you more than we all do, so talk to her and communicate with her on how you feel, all of this is building up in you and it is not good for you and for your wife and for your marriage, you have got to communicate with her, and tell her how you feel.

She is only human, if she loves you and you love her, then she will listen and she will communicate with you also, it sounds to me like you both have to talk and get it all out in the open.

You knew what she was like when you married her, so it should be easy for you to talk to her, after all, you do know her, and you love her, that is why you married her, right??

So you're saying that you can't touch your wife without wanting sex from it?? That's a little outrageous don't you think? If I was your wife I would think that you only wanted me for one thing! Now I'm not a cuddler but every so often I just want to be held by my husband. You need to sacifice a little for her.

open communication is the answer, take her to a nice quite place where you both can talk heart to heart. tell to her the reasons why you don't cuddle her as often as she wants, then compromise.

compromise (which is what marriage is about!) by cuddling as foreplay and you'll both get what you want! Cuddling after will also bring you closer.

you should change your self . she is your wife. and she needs you. may be she will feel alone may be she thinks you don't love her.sacrifices a name of the life. don't do it as often but al least once in a week try to make her happy

Marriage is 100/100... sorry dude. Sounds like neither of you are willing to give it your all.

okay, youre missing the point of the cuddling.

you do it to get HER in the mood. once she's in the mood, she'll put out. just cuddle with her and then you'll get laid.