girl 16/ bf 21 acceptable?

Assalamu'alaikum sister,

I agree with you. I think this is unacceptable, however there isn't really much you can do. Legally, she is probably allowed to have sex (the age of consent varies slightly for some states. Refer to this site http://www.avert.org/aofconsent.htm.)

She is allowed to have sex with him, and even have his child (but not marry him until another two years--what sense does that make? I have no clue.)

This man can be arrested if she has not reached the age of consent yet, but if she has...there is really nothing that can be done. It's her choice and on top of that, her mother supports her.

I hope this doesn't hinder the girl's future, but she is certainly to too young to have such an intimate relationship with her boyfriend...considering it's an open relationship.

If you feel comfortable talking the girl or possibly the mother...just delicately bring up the topic and try to share your opinion. It's nice to see you're concerned.

Wa salaam

i agree with you... it isn't acceptable. if the shoe was on the other foot and the female was 21 and the male was 16... everyone would be up in arms. but in this male dominated society, it seems to be overlooked when a grown man is in a "relationship" with a minor. unless her parent pushes it the legal system usually won't bother with it... but below 18 is technically a minor and below the age of consent. 21 is legally an adult everywhere in the US. Child welfare might put the child in a foster home or a group home but that might be from the fry pan into a fire. They could arrest the 21 yr old for contributing to the deliquency of a minor and statuatory rape. the mother could be charged with all sorts of things. but who's going to report it and complain??

the mother isn't being a mother at all. she isn't displaying proper responsibility for her teenage daughter.

what could a "man" have in common with a "teenager"??

other than sex.

Yikes! What is the mother thinking??

First of all, the 16 yr old is a minor. Yes, the man is guilty of statutory rape, even if the the girl consents to sex. Why? Because as a minor, she is not legally able to consent. Yes, he could be arrested for rape, contributing to the delinquency of a minor, and maybe more.

The mother could also be arrested for contributing to the sexual delinquency of a minor and perhaps even be charged for aiding and abetting the sexual delinquency of a minor.

Child Protection Services should be alerted. They are the ones who handle this type of situation. They do have a hotline which keeps the caller's name anonymous.

Really, it's a 5 year difference. Would you ruin someones life for that? Remember, it's not only the girls life you'll be screwing around with, but a young guy just a few years out of high school. This would be put on his record for LIFE, as well as putting him on the list of child sex offenders for whenever anyone searches his name. For the rest of his entire life.

If it is perfectly acceptable for a 20 year old girl to marry an 75 year old man for his cash, why would a willing couple be prohibited from this?

Of course, it is wholly unacceptable with US law. (I think) The same law of course prevents 17 yo and an 18 yo from doing anything, because of that imaginary line between 17-18.

Still, it IS the law, and we are bound by it, even if it isn't exactly fair sometimes.

I really don't know what to advise. Ruining someones life with action , or possibly ruining the life of someone else by inaction. Neither seems fair or right. They're both just kids.

This man can be arrested for statutory rape, sex with a minor.

Report his punk *** for lulz.

it's illegal and WRONG that MAN should go to jail and learn a lesson b4 he deceives some other poor little girl into thinking she is a woman!

not good on mom's part