Do it yourselfers, do any of you have loving, helpful spouse or partner that....?

I am one of those Ida spouses! My husband is redoing our bathroom. It had not been redone since the 50's, so we had to go right back to the plaster. Well when my husband decided to get started on the project, he destroyed everything in there! Mind you, my closet is in the bathroom and I barley held him off long enough to get them out. Then after he knocked the SH&T out the place, he started asking me when the items we ordered were going to be in, that would have been another week, and when were we going to go pick up and order the other things we needed. I so bad wanted to tell him IDA made sure we had everything we possibly could purchased and pick up before he destroyed the only tub in my home! I was able to mostly keep my mouth shut, but he did tell me if I didn't like it, I could hire a contractor! MInd you, my bathroom has been down for 2 weeks now, and my husband is going to the airplane races this weekend! He has yet to reinstall a thing, but he sure had fun knocking the hell out of it!!

Nope! I design it,I figure out how to assemble it,I help with the work all the while Hubby does the hard work saying its never going to work!When its done he always say well you did it again.That's our team work.He can do all the work but not the imagination to get it started.We do everything but electrical he got badly schocked once now we hire that done.Can't wait to see how my outdoor kitchen is going to come out,we have it all but the grill and nothing is placed or finished.He promises by July 4 th I'll be cooking.

Nope. If she starts telling how she would do it, I hand her the tools a head for the TV. Then again, I have been doing this type thing for over 40 years. The DIY jobs I do are considered A-B-C jobs. A- is me and I know what I am doing, B- is her and she doesn't know, so C that you either be quiet and help or do it yourself.

I am the one to whom HE turns because I grew up in a household that couldn't afford service folks to do repairs. I AM the one who knows how to change a ballast in a fluorescent fixture. I AM the one who shared sooooo much with our daughter. One day she came up from the basement and brushed her hands off against her jeans. When I asked what it was all about, she said that one of the light fixtures had melted down and she had replaced a ballast after throwing the fuse for that circuit. She was about ten years old at the time.

She was aware of safety. She knew how to get the new ballast out of a spare fixture. (I bought extra ones when they were available because a new ballast cost just as much as the whole fixture.) She knew how to replace the defective one. And I, her MOTHER, knew how to say, "Job well done."

I'm looking for one - or someone close.

This does train you to be patient. That's a virtue. Hang in there. There are worse lives.