Been Married for 2 years and together for 3 1/2?

sounds like he knows you are home with kids and taking care of things. and he thinks things are just like he wants them....well you need to put a few ideas in his head that something is changing...first off find someone to sit with the kids and go out...just shopping or driving around make him wonder what you are doing...start dressing different change you looks some hair cut or new cloths..just change your routine and he may think something is going on and that you may be looking around for something or someone new. just find a magazine with spas or one about how to dress for guys just something that you know he might pick up and see what your reading. just suttle ideas that your changing and tired of sitting home and working all the time...if this don't get him to pay more attention use the D word and see what that does...good luck you just need to wake him up to what he may lose.

Gosh. sometimes this sounds a lot like me. I have been maried to my husband for a little more than 3 years and we met 4 1/2 years ago. I also stay at home with my son, and do everything around the house while my husband works. I also go to school full time. anyway, the first 2 years were the hardest. There were so many times where I wanted to just leave. but honestly, this year has ben waaaay better than the past two. we are just now getting used to each other. but have talks with him. tell him to respect you. I would try to stick it out a little more because the first 2 years are the hardest. if it doesnt get better, you have to please yourself and move on. One of the main reasons I started going to school is because if we ever broke up, I wouldn't have to borrow money from anyone. I would be able to make my own.

Has this always been the case? Or has the behavior changed? If the behavior is new, talk to him about it and let him know you are overwhelmed. If he truly cares about you , he will try to work things out. If he's always been this way, he may never change and you should have seen this coming. Counseling may be needed.

Talk to him about it i bet you heard this before but the key to every relationship is being able to speak to eachother hold a conversation and comunicating. Talk to him about it tell him how you feel, dont leave him yet there might still yet be hope there maybe he isnt aware of how you feel talk to him about it let him know how you feel ask him why does he act this way? does he want to still be with you? do he still love you? you know stuff like that so you can know how things are between both of you, also think about your kids how are you gonna deal with them if it doesnt work out? but talk to him about it and some people dont h ave the guts to talk to their partners or antyhing so if your one of those people just write down a letter let him know how you feel what you think he is doing wrong and that both of you need to sit down and really talk about it.

you know i have been with my husband for 5 years now and we are in the same boat! my husband does the same thing....i just finally stopped even talking to him about it! i stopped doing stuff for him like making his lunch for work, didn't make his plate for him when it was dinner time, just basically stopped being his made! now he is coming around! he now takes the kids out to play, gets up on saturday when he doesn't have to work and will clean the house for me with out me even having to ask!!!!!!! we used to fight so much of him not helping with the kids or anything! but once he sees that you aren't gonna keep on waitin on him hand and foot he will miss that and i bout bet he'll be more willing to help:)

good luck hope it helps!

You also work just as hard or harder than he does. Taking care of children and a household is a full-time job. Maybe speak to him when you are both calm. Ask him for help. Give him a "to do" list. Try not to argue.

He needs to know that YOU need attention too! You need to speak up and let him know that you are being neglected. Sometimes our daily routines put us in a rut and we begin to neglect our spouses. It is up to both of you to make time for one another to bring back the lost sparks. Get to the bottom of WHY you two are fighting. Is it because of stress? Is it finances? If not, some counseling is in order.

i would say sit down and try to tell him how you feel, if he loves you he will try and change things , unfortunately if he dont then you need to leave him, i was married a long time and you know what sometimes the grass is greener on the other side! good luck

it is time you tell him to grow up or you will leave it is not right for you to do everything ,,you need your sleep also and you need to know if he is cheating