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kbug
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kbug asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 1 decade ago

How can I help my best friend?

My friend has been with the same guy for 9 years. She is 24 and he is 25 and they have been togehter since high school. We have been best friends for 6 years now. In this time i have seen them break up more times than i can count and i see how he treats her....like crap!! She always says she is done with him but then falls for his same old line of, "I promise i will change!" Now she is 3 months pregnant with his baby and they still fight all the time. She kicked him out last week and then took him back. AGAIN! I have told her how i feel about him numerous times in the past. What should I do as a best friend to help her see that she will be unhappy forever if she stays with him? I do not want to damage our friendship by talking bad about her man but he will never change and she will always be unhappy. I just want her to be happy so what should i do if anything to help her?

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Unfortunately you cannot live people's lives for them. I would keep quiet about what you think about the guy because she will resent. Just remain her friend and be there for her when it goes wrong.

    Some men change a bit when they become fathers so there is still some hope that he will too.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    as a friend, you've already done everything you can. now that she's carrying his baby, she can't do much. if she kicks him out for good, is she going to raise the baby as a single mom? think of how hard that would be on your friend. i say, wait until the baby is a bit older, and if the guy hasn't changed, THEN you kick him in the ***.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    just set her straight. tell her what you can see from the outside. she will be angry with you of course and think that you are jealous etc. but after a while she will realise that you are right and will see the truth. tell her and hope for te best. but remember that she will tell him and he is going to try and keep you apart from her. just be careful.

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