Im still not even divorced but boyfriend is moving too fast!?

Slow down then! What's the hurry? You see a big red flag - take it easy! You both need to take "time off" and get used to not being in your marriages. Don't move in with him just yet - give it time and see if you are compatible. I'm sure you both understand that he's not going to be like your ex, and you're not going to be like his ex - but the larger issue is, are the two of you compatible, exes non-withstanding. You might have different expectations from a relationship - take it slow, figure yourself out, and let him figure himself out.

You do realize how many rebound marriages fail? And that adding kids into the mix lowers that number even more?

It's good that you recognize he's moving too fast, because he is. Way too fast! Your kids need time to adjust to the blowup of their world and they'll need your attention more than ever.

Keep seeing the guy, but marriage plans should be like way off in the distance. Get your own place with your kids or keep the one you have, etc. but don't start in on this Brady Bunch stuff. And I'd also cool the time you spend with him for a bit. Divorces are incredibly tough on kids as it is without watching their mom turn around and get involved with someone else.

When you have both just ended traumatic relationships, you need some time to let things settle before moving in together. He can promise to "not act so needy," but if that's the way he feels it's the way he's going to act.

It sounds like you are truly uncomfortable with how he is relating to you now, and especially with kids involved it's vitally important to take things slowly. Pay attention to your discomfort and be good to yourself and your children.

He promised but here you are asking. Think before you decide to move in with him or marry him. You already have one broken marriage. Don't go for a second. Remember you have children to consider.

dump him